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10 Characteristics Of Highly Toxic Parents





Do you suspect your parents to be toxic? The effect of this lifetime of toxic parenting is an adult who continues to suffer from an unhealthy perspective of love and relationships. The first 100 people to download Endel at https://bit.ly/3yZQi6J will get a free week of audio experiences! Sponsorship like Endel allows us to create more free and accessible content for everyone.

We also made a video on the things toxic things parents should NEVER say to their kids: https://youtu.be/GS_mATLF7BE

DISCLAIMER: This video is for educational purposes only. This video is not a substitute for professional diagnosis, advice, or guidance. This video is not made to attack anyone who may display these signs, but rather to understand them and bring more awareness to the topic!

Writer: Max Gustavo
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Chantal Van Rensburg
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

0:00 Introduction
0:45 THEY ARE HYPERCRITICAL
1:22 THEY DON’T ALLOW YOU TO EXPRESS YOUR TRUE FEELINGS
3:01 THEY COMPETE
3:40 THEY DON’T SEE THEIR CHILDREN AS INDIVIDUALS
4:20 THEY CONTROL THEIR CHILDREN USING GUILT AND MONEY
5:02 THEY ALWAYS PUT THEIR FEELINGS FIRST
5:34 THEY DEMAND YOUR ATTENTION AND PRAISE
6:06 THEY WITHOLD LOVE AS A FORM OF PUNISHMENT
6:48 THEY GIVE NO APOLOGIES AND TAKE NO BLAME
7:32 THEY IGNORE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

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34 thoughts on “10 Characteristics Of Highly Toxic Parents”

  8. @GreyWatcher

    My SO’s mother without warning or provocation suddenly started to scream and threw things. Then her father came out of his hiding place and asked my SO ”Why did you make your mother angry?”
    The guild was always assumed beforehand and so punishment no matter what she responded. Repeat several times each day for all of her childhood.

  9. @pablosmitty4024

    This is trash. Teaching kids their feelings are important is begging them to not develop. Yes, how you feel is part of development but to overvalue feelings in a person without a fully developed prefrontal cortex will lead to confusion. Validating a child’s feelings when they lack the ability to even logically comprehend them themselves leads to a lack of developed coping mechanisms

  10. @Scorpio_noah

    omg my life relate a lot with this video.. and that little kid. dang my parents are very toxic tbh.. they always mean.. just 10 mints ago my mom slap me and yelled at me bc "i responded back" WHAT AM I GANAN I CARN'T EVEN EAT PROPERLY NOR DO ANYTHING WITH THIS STUPID DEPRESSION ON MY HEAD I AM TIREED REALLY NOT KIDDING my mom just yelled at me and said some very mean and bad word slap me after i left that room bc she told me to get out with some bad words when i did and go back to my room she started screaming and hitting me…..after that 10 mints later coming back to me just to make it clear that it was my felt that i did not eat when she told me to.. and she says "i give u food water and everything u need but u still be so ungrateful' and " ya i go to work with your father all day to feed u and that's what u give!? go t the streets u will find how hard it is to get some money" and more. WHAT AM I SPPOST TO DO WHAT SHE EVEN THINK I AM ONLY 14 HOW THE HELL WILL I WORK.. THEY ALWAYS MEAN TO ME I AM JUST TIRED. i can't even tell then i am depressed bc if i did they will say that i am lying and they give everything how will i get depressed and if i tell its bc of them they will be more mad and again hide me laptop…. or hit me…..

  11. @India-taste

    I'm 18 …
    I have no privacy..😢
    But i don't understand that should I have ..?? 🙄
    They used to say that privacy takes you away from us…
    Is it correct..??🙄

  12. @RainHernandez-tw9mf

    I knew never to cry unless I was crying blood. But.its not wrong that they do the best they can, you can't expect an addict, idiot, etc to do anything more. I was a kid seems like yesterday and I've been a mom steady since 19. That being said, I see both sides, but why is everyone crying about the parents they had. Who cares, get over yourselves. I know better cuz what I've been through. So I thank u one and all, thanks for the struggle 😮‍💨Oh my gosh cry me a river. people are starving in the world think about it OVERGROWN babies. you keep walking around taking your life for granted crying about what happened to you in 1909… Then watch, and then when you really go through something, as an adult
    you’ll see what pain actually is and maybe you’ll get over what happened to little you. I say that with all due respect my kids are up. I told him to go down. It doesn’t go through. They’re still here so I take this with a grain of salt The tiniest grain. If your a pussy willow then this is a good video.

  18. @seancampbell9689

    This sums up most of my family. Thanks for the insightful video by the way! I broke away from them 2 years ago as they were constantly overstepping boundaries and being very domineering, which all became noticeable once my daughter was born. Honestly, I don’t regret it at all

  22. @Kaiess01_YT

    Realising my mum done most of these without me ever knowing has definitely been hard to me to cope with growing up. And without my dad being there or caring just adds to not having a childhood. Full respect to anyone who has been through this and is now doing well and got their life sorted. Independence is the best thing you can do.

  25. @lilacnpink3864

    I remember my mother turn her back on me while i am screaming of unbearable pain. Now i am helping my granddaughter to her college even i am having baxk pain. I never allow my granddaughter and my son to experience what i've been through. Sorry i can not tell this to any of my friend.

  31. @whateverilike1233

    Dude my parents literally think they can do anything with me because theyre my parents… Like when i dont want to do something theykk start tickling me and womt stop even if im yelling or crying… And as tickling makes you laugh they think im happy with whatevers happening. They manipulate me into doing stuff… I hate being touched by them… They never listen… They see me crying as a joke

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