I finally got a full time job but needed a quick ride to work for my shifts. I thought he'd be proud, but my dad was angry and stole my tips in retaliation, told everyone I was a loser basically and he deserved my money for "raising" me. He didn't raise me, he drank 24/7.
Danish is the absolute best when it comes to narcissism. He really digs down deep, and gives behaviors that folks can recognize even though the general specifics might manifest differently for everyone. He focuses on the narc BEHAVIORS. My narc might say or do things in a different way than yours – or that I might perceive differently, but our outcomes end up in the same place because actual intent of our narcs behaviors are the same. There's only so many ways that different narcs can skin the same cat. ❤
1. Destroy your reputation. Check. My mom has all my sisters thinking that I'm incompetent and/ or crazy.
2. Try to destroy the thing that took away their control. Check. She has tried to sabotage my job by making it difficult for me to work from home, and has also discouraged me from having any connections with anyone outside of the family.
3. Throw a pity party. Check.
And when throwing a pity party in front of you doesn't work, they may throw a pity party behind your back. I have experienced that too.
My mother tried to falsely have me sectioned for mental health when I held her accountable, the Dr’s knew what I was dealing with and released me saying to get away from her. Then she tried to file false police charges against me. I moved many states away and she tried to follow.
These are pretty extreme for my sitatuion but my mom was borderline and kept to the pity party in subtle tones, she's so alone, make sure to call her, OK?! But she took every op to tell me I was doing things wrong then come back and say I got my life together better than her, I have everything under control – all the while I'm begging for help, things are a mess and she barely throws a comment on it while talking over me. Is she being sarcastic or trying to get be to come under her again… its all a mind game.
Yep, when I left my narcissistic mother at the tender age of 16, she went and found out where I was living. Shen then proceeded to pay a visit to the people that took me in, in my absence of course, telling them that I have HIV so they should kick me out.
They didnt wait til they lost me to so all that. They did that my entire life. After 40 years i cut them off. Gave them that long with chance after chance to own up to the abuse, and when they made it known that was too much to ask of them, i told them theyre on their own, just like they did to me qhen i needed them
Narcissistic abuse is death by a thousand cuts. This is why no one sees it. Every incident is seemingly small, but they do it on purpose and non-stop for their larger agenda.
You are talking about ordinary human behavior and labeling it narcissism. This causes callousness and disunity in families. I know there is a disease called NPD but you weaponize the bad guys with some of these generalized behaviors that are normal responses as exclusive to NPD
not necessarily My dad tries to look "kind" He can no longer control me and he is pushed to a corner He is quiet for now If i move out i am sure he will TRY to pull one last thing before collapsing for good
Saying all the things you done for someone doesn’t make you a narcissist. If that person treat you like you did nothing for them & ungrateful then you can speak your part
Yep. We're moving house. I've been helping all day. My mom yelling the whole entire day. Then when her husband got home, she started spouting lies about me complaining the whole time. Bullshit.
I finally got a full time job but needed a quick ride to work for my shifts. I thought he'd be proud, but my dad was angry and stole my tips in retaliation, told everyone I was a loser basically and he deserved my money for "raising" me. He didn't raise me, he drank 24/7.
Going out to dinner with my covert narcissist mother tonight so I’m binging how to react and how not to. Do not engage! Do not engage!!
My mother in law,has resorted to all three.
Danish is the absolute best when it comes to narcissism. He really digs down deep, and gives behaviors that folks can recognize even though the general specifics might manifest differently for everyone. He focuses on the narc BEHAVIORS.
My narc might say or do things in a different way than yours – or that I might perceive differently, but our outcomes end up in the same place because actual intent of our narcs behaviors are the same. There's only so many ways that different narcs can skin the same cat. ❤
Mother in law did the 3 already. Waiting on another hit soon….
Yep my mom has done all of this and I have cut all ties
Have mercy! Facts and truth! Everything is true! Thanks
1. Destroy your reputation. Check. My mom has all my sisters thinking that I'm incompetent and/ or crazy.
2. Try to destroy the thing that took away their control. Check. She has tried to sabotage my job by making it difficult for me to work from home, and has also discouraged me from having any connections with anyone outside of the family.
3. Throw a pity party. Check.
And when throwing a pity party in front of you doesn't work, they may throw a pity party behind your back. I have experienced that too.
My mother tried to falsely have me sectioned for mental health when I held her accountable, the Dr’s knew what I was dealing with and released me saying to get away from her. Then she tried to file false police charges against me. I moved many states away and she tried to follow.
These are pretty extreme for my sitatuion but my mom was borderline and kept to the pity party in subtle tones, she's so alone, make sure to call her, OK?! But she took every op to tell me I was doing things wrong then come back and say I got my life together better than her, I have everything under control – all the while I'm begging for help, things are a mess and she barely throws a comment on it while talking over me. Is she being sarcastic or trying to get be to come under her again… its all a mind game.
She spread the word and for some reason no one questions it. I have lost most of the family to her lies.
You post is so spot on. Thank you. ❤
Yep, when I left my narcissistic mother at the tender age of 16, she went and found out where I was living. Shen then proceeded to pay a visit to the people that took me in, in my absence of course, telling them that I have HIV so they should kick me out.
Yes
ALL 3😮😮😮😮😮
Yes mother and stepmother
They didnt wait til they lost me to so all that. They did that my entire life. After 40 years i cut them off. Gave them that long with chance after chance to own up to the abuse, and when they made it known that was too much to ask of them, i told them theyre on their own, just like they did to me qhen i needed them
Oh yes
experienced 2/3 for now…
All three
Mom
Dad
Step mom
Narcissistic abuse is death by a thousand cuts. This is why no one sees it. Every incident is seemingly small, but they do it on purpose and non-stop for their larger agenda.
That's my life exactly.. I feel like a prisoner in my home..
Yes indeed from my mother using my kids as a weapon against me with her baby daddy people I'm not related to them Mofos
Omg yes. 100%. 😢
You are talking about ordinary human behavior and labeling it narcissism. This causes callousness and disunity in families. I know there is a disease called NPD but you weaponize the bad guys with some of these generalized behaviors that are normal responses as exclusive to NPD
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Mere father ye sab kar rahe hain pure ghar ko mere khilaf kar rakha hai yahan tak ki ghar ke sarvents ko bhi 😢😢😢😢😢😢
My mother did the last one
My mother tried to ruin my relationship with my partner as soon as I got pregnant. Needless to say she’s not the one I kept around.
I am going through the same situation…😢
I couldn't have said it any better. You hit the nail on the head my friend ❤
Why does she always use slang words for me
not necessarily
My dad tries to look "kind"
He can no longer control me and he is pushed to a corner
He is quiet for now
If i move out i am sure he will TRY to pull one last thing before collapsing for good
Still I love them though. ❤
Had a big fight with my mom over the phone today and she did all of the three things. It's scary how accurate this is
Yeeeeessss the very last
I have experienced all of these. My parents lied to make me resign from my job.
Saying all the things you done for someone doesn’t make you a narcissist. If that person treat you like you did nothing for them & ungrateful then you can speak your part
Yep. We're moving house. I've been helping all day. My mom yelling the whole entire day. Then when her husband got home, she started spouting lies about me complaining the whole time.
Bullshit.
My mother has done all these
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