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5 Parenting Tips for Raising Resilient, Self-Reliant Kids | Tameka Montgomery | TED





How do you raise kids to step outside of their comfort zones and unlock their inner potential? It all starts with helping them develop a resilient mindset. Mother and business owner Tameka Montgomery makes the case for cultivating an entrepreneurial outlook at an early age — and offers five strategies for emboldening young minds to embrace opportunities and solve their own problems, no matter the path they choose.

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43 thoughts on “5 Parenting Tips for Raising Resilient, Self-Reliant Kids | Tameka Montgomery | TED”

  1. The reason young adults stay at home is because house pricing is sky-rocketing while wages are getting lower and lower. This is the SECOND generation that earns less than the previous one, and you think "entrepeneurism" is the solution? To create MORE ubers and food deliveres in the world? TED, go outside, look at the world, and talk to these people please.

  2. I don't think kids' adults who are entrepreneurial are really chasing money. I think to want your own business, find solutions to global issues, trying to change the world aren't cha Ching $$$. I taught my grandkids when they wanted things to get lawn jobs, snow removal, they did and earned what the needed. It was fun to watch them get excited about earning and finding ways to expand that … and I saw them help people for nothing, donate time and money when needs came up at church of school. I still watch them as adults do this!

  3. Good they go to go to Tanzania. Now had the come up short would you have paid it? I think travel is a family thing, and such a great op for service, that taking your kids traveling is not going to raise entitled children. My dad took us to travel, but we had to earn our spending money, money for wants – I really like my kids taking action but what do you do if they don't hit it?

  4. The best part of this talk is the speaker's own story. This is definitely a conversation worth having. There are quite a few assumptions that get into the talk but the best points are from her own story and experience. The quote is definitely on point. Children and humans are naturally entrepreneurs. It is our school systems and our cultures that quickly destroy that. It is we who need to be mindful to work back to what is wise and natural… explore without limiting beliefs, achieve, survive, thrive.

  5. I couldn't get more than 2 minutes into this. First off how to you mention statistical data (more than 52% of young adults living at home) without mentioning the complete data from that study (of the 52% of YA living at home more than 85% state the reason being wages; as in we can't afford to live on our own no matter how much we want to!) This is definitely an opinion piece from someone who can't wait for her kids to leave home, disregarding her main job as a parent, making sure that's what's best for them. The older generation needs to stop ignoring and distorting facts. My kids can stay with me as LONG as they NEED to. It's not about resilience, or fear of greatness, or even not wanting to "Adult" it's about having real tools (financial stability, healthy environments, education (most of you all rely on education systems to teach your children personal finance and it's either not being done by them or done poorly because THAT'S NOT THEIR JOB IT'S YOURS!) and patience) that's what helps make self reliant productive members of society.

  6. Children are stuck at home because the past fucked the world up for them. Companies won't pay them a living wage, they're saddled with student debt and a useless degree and they can't buy houses or become middle class because the rich are taking most of the wealth for themselves. If their parents and grandparents hadn't been so greedy and destroyed the middle class then their children might have had a future that they could take off into.

  7. Those were great success stories, but I would like to hear more about how she handles teaching kids about FAILING successfully. When their ideas don't pan out, when they don't get enough for the tickets, etc. How do you address their disappointment and disaffection then without abandoning the method you've established?

  8. Lots of great points. But can not agree with the part of overly addressing earning their own moneys and never giving allowance. Success is not just about financial resilience, they also have right to be “spoiled” once a while to feel special and loved instead of being forced to rely on themselves all the time. Maybe I got it wrong, or maybe the actual practice is not this exaggerated. We want our kids to be happy and be able to feel loved, cared for, respected, and be able to love, care for and respect others, regardless of financial reasons.

  9. >>Calling Hokum And Hogwash On Balenciaga’s Apology For Bondage Ad Pics With Toddlers. Read at the Published Reporter. Fashion brand Balenciaga apologized after an outrageous advertisement sparked backlash. Yes, I am hopping mad! The ad depicted toddlers holding teddy bears dressed in bondage belts. Furthermore, I am morally outraged!
    Folks, do you actually believe the doubletalk by the company big wigs? Malarkey is my opinion. It’s a codswallop smoke screen for getting caught in the act. The company pushed their indoctrination of sexualization meter to see how the public would respond. Well, the corporate perverts got their answer.

  10. This talk should be titled "how to raise kids that have a better shot at becoming a millionair than their parents had" and you should know that this is absolutely not the only definition of "good parenting".

  11. Conceptually I get it but I wonder if this approach might condition kids to feel like everything they do needs to have a "return" (e.g., financial gain). It could potentially take away their passion for things that they are intrinsically interested in.

  12. This is definitely resonating. There is a spectrum for everything. Like not paying for family holidays for your kids is a bit harsh. Most people I know are not entitled brats and they got an allowance and family holidays paid for. I think there is a risk of causing resentment when you are denying your kids too much. But I’m all for the problem solving part to figure out how to get what you want in a clever and practical way where you create value for others, not steel or con them because you can’t figure out another way to do it

  13. Wow, wise lady. Thank you so much for helping me to focus on what’s essential for raising my kid. I was going crazy getting sidetracked with fluffs instead of focusing on what matters

  14. Tips:
    1. Dont give them an allowance/earn themselves.
    2. Make them pay for their wants.
    3. Reduce their prosperity.
    4. Let them be delight directed
    5. Let them solve their own problems

  15. Instead of dictating or aggressively instructing kids to bring their empty dirty plates to the sink, squat to their eye level and smile, and ask them "can you help papa with a favour please?" Kid replied "Ok.", Parent: "Can you help papa bring the empty plates to the sink together with me?" This will inculcate good habits in the child and engage the child to be a valuable member of the household.

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