Dr. Becky Kennedy: Protocols for Excellent Parenting & Improving Relationships of All Kinds

RULES & BOUNDARIES?
Like when I say bedtime starts and the baby gate will go up at a pre-scheduled time regardless of how much crying and fussing, because she will forget the drama by the next morning. Or at least that's the way her Alzheimer's has been effecting her. 😂

I am twenty minutes in ans she is very stern in her opinion of communication with children .She reminds me of a drill sargent dressed in mom clothes.She states several times children are annoying based on this as a mom I will not be taking any pointers from this woman.This is not personal just an opinion .If the Mom is behaving in this way where is the soft space for the children ? How will tey open up tp you like this about anything ?

At 1:38:00 you note kids have a lot of energy. 33% of our entire body mass is made of mitochondria, the structures within cells that produces ADP our body uses for energy. Those cells are so busy they produce 70 to 80 kg of ADP per day to keep us running; an amazing amount of fuel. We recycle it as fast as we can and burning it up on a bicycle, hoops or a surf session can help calm a wild child who, 100,000 years ago was biting at the bit to take down their first Woolly Mammoth. Clans which lacked such children did not survive long.
ONE presidential candidate, Craig Mead, Mead4Prez, would ensure every Library had after school programs for latchkey kids, daily labs with eager, capable tutors, sports, field trips, camping and more, so it should come as no surprise homelessness and child poverty would end on day one. One presidential candidate designed systems for hospitals, OBGYN clinics, psych wards and National HMOs and understands what positions and nurses need to deliver Quality Care so our life expectancy rises, right along with the wealth and health of children and adults, much of it stemming from acquiring self-esteem with new skills. One presidential candidate worked with violent mentally challenged teens and understands when a child acquires self-esteem their behavior corrects almost overnight.
On this transition from violent outbursts to peaceful, resilient and content, "normal" Adults and Teens are ironically often a little retarded and can take longer, sometimes years and sometimes a lifetime, often due to addictions and low self-esteem, though many Predator teens will give up their felonious ways the week after you teach them how to build a computer and write a little software. Skills deliver self-esteem which can cure many things.

I wish all child births came with book on how to parent.

Like this very much. Need to throw this out there to be done with what one will. If my mom, snapped on me or left me at school after everyone had gone home already…and then right after approached me as a concerned party talking about "that must have really been hard" and "i'm sure that experience was scary" from roughly 1st grade on i would have roasted her. I am not proud of how hard I was on my parents, but if you tried that sort of split personality approach by the time i was done you would have believed you had a split personality for real. I actually can feel the anger revolving around the attempt at swindling me if I put myself mentally in that situation. My response would be a less refined (but by 5th grade pretty much exactly) "Like yes it was scary and this is because of the choices you made and your lack of care or effort in your obligations to me, like you had one very simple job… it wasn't remove a brain tumor under time constraints, it wasn't negotiate arms treaties, it was simply come here at the same time as it always is (and because we went to the same elementary) and always has been since you were 5 years old.. So which is it are you losing your cognitive thinking abilities or do you just simply not care about me, my well being, the embarrassment i face, the embarrassment you face, keeping your word and the rest… Because its clearly one or the other.." which kind of forces her to choose the loss of brain function, which would result in me removing some confidence points for her input as a person. I would probably also mention that its in both of our best interests if I make the decisions from now on as well, just so we make it to tomorrow safely considering she cannot complete the simplest of tasks… I was GATE program and presidents award blah blah and my parents had divorced and there was turmoil in which I became a man (in my mind) very young and I am sure this reflects my issues processing things construed ass abandonment and the likes, but it doesn't change the fact the some kids are smarter then their parents from the jump and approaching them in any other capacity than an equal requires genuine confidence and the ability to explain and back up your reasoning with actual logic otherwise you may lose their obedience and faith in what you instruct them to do to the point of them genuinely feeling they know better and disregarding your input out of a sort of survival mechanism. I guess what I am figuring out as i type this is that I am pretty sure this seriously underestimates a significant portion of children and if your child is above average intelligence you may need to approach it differently . Or I am way off and was just a super abnormal kid with a fairly developed vocabulary and zero tolerance for carelessness or weakness. I was truly a lil s*** i get that part but I was also honest and concise, like i didn't lie because I stood behind the things i did or said 100% (I could and would argue any point or action because it was easy to shut down ridiculous reasons such as "because I said so") and wouldn't do or say them if i didn't. Anyway that was my take on it, I think a lot of these concepts shared are helpful and can help people start to rewire their mind to think rationally and I appreciate the work you guys do, had to throw my experience out there and maybe you can shed some light on it or if there is even a solution for someone like my mom in this situation.

This was an excellent podcast that has changed my parenting in a day.. I was having the worst time with my child and this turned things around for us. I was going down a bad road of anger blame but I see now a better way of parenting. Dr Huberman asked interesting and really important questions that directed the conversation well. Thanks so much for this.

I grew up in a poor sub-rural area in China, neither of my parents went to high schools, but one thing I still remember that they keep telling me was “I believe you”, I believe that you are going to make the right decision, I believe that you are going to do your best to the situation, I believe that you’ll make the better use of the time, resource, relationship, so on and so forth. I remember growing up feeling really trusted and to the extend that I don’t wanna ruin the trust and belief, when I can possibly make a naughty decision or decide to skip a class. Now with this episode, I know just how critical those 3 words mean. I feel immensely grateful to my parents.

Wow! You are killing it! Thank you very much! Unbelievable good Podcast! Extremely helpful in so many ways! Love it!

Yo I’ve watched this one twice and implemented as much as I could, and the shit don’t work. “I understand blah blah blah” my 3 year olds broken and currently breaking me

She so genuinely loves kids and wants the best. So many others in her profession seem to want to harm kids and alienate them from their parents. I learned a lot today. My son is 20 but hopefully I have grandkids one day

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Thank you!!!!!!!

If the kid never clears their plate, maybe you're giving them too much food.

Hey Dr.! Can we see a discussion about pregnancy? What is normal, what is not, things to improve health, etc.
you are the best! Thank you for sharing your knowledge! Much admiration, love and respect

I need her to be my mother

2:27:31 🥺🥺

42:30 confidence is “self trust”!!! That’s exactly how we say confidence in Japanese😮😮😮

Dear Dr. Hubeman, can you make a protocol on how to get shower in the most successful way?

I keep hearing this” kids jumping on the couch”, is that a bad thing for kids? My kids jump on couch all the time and I don’t see how that is bad.

Man, I came here to get an interview and got ads. Come on man, so many people I listen to on here don’t sprinkle in ads this much.

Amazing podcast. Learnt alot, more about my own childhood then my child's in most cases! Amazing how simple some of these ideas are and yet they just never occur to you until someone says them out loud ❤

Parenting is a big big job with great outcomes. Thank you for sharing any kind of information regarding good parenting.

tx i learned a lot!!

Amazing episode

"I don't want to go on vacation with the family." Even if it's a short car trip, to go camping. They'd rather stay home and socialize with friends.