5 positive parenting tips on how to deal with a stubborn child:
1) Stay calm. As a parent, never allow your child’s mood to control yours. Just keep breathing. Children aren’t good at regulating their emotions, but you can–since you’re an adult.
2) Take note of what you can control. Children normally choose something they could control.
You have control of the things you provide them.
3) Empower what your kids can control. Focus on the choice of your child. It’s ok for you to say, “You know what sweetie, that’s your choice”. Empowering their choice and honoring them also mean there will still be consequences that children can’t control.
4) Listen rather than argue with your kids. Children argue because it gives them a false sense of power. Take a listening approach. You can change the dynamic of the conversation. You can do this by saying, “Oh, that’s interesting. Tell me more about that.” Try it.
5) Be empathic than angry. Let them know that it’s also hard on you as a parent.
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What If My Child Just Doesn't Care About Consequences –
Consequences yes
Theses tips work for real
Great insights. Thanks
Listening can be frustrating. Great insights. Thank you Sir
My grandmother is not let me do my hair.
When I was stubborn as a kid, my parents gave me a spanking.
Very high level to the point that it’s not even useful
How to manage yourself when you hve a husband who is control freak and criticising you
Pls help
I agree that you should incorporate more examples, but otherwise you have helped me more in this video than anyone else ever has.
Man I love this Team. Life changing. Love you guys so so much.
Is this guy for real?
My daughter would choose to go to the party so what would be an appropriate consequence?
My stubborn child is quiet about it. She keeps breaking the rules even though the consequences are always there.
So true about the consequences, because we as parents look forward to a trip with our kids to some fun place, and when they do something and have to face consequeses – the trip has to be canceled, thats the consequence we as parents have to grieve over too, and makes you kinda mad at your kid, because as a responsible parent you have to stick to your words to show an example that when you say something you really mean it, but oh well, you have to do what you have to do…
Thanks for this video – life saver!! What’s rave and rescue?
What do i do when my kid refuses to go to school and not going isnt an option?
I have one 😅 thank you!
Thanks man especially about the breathing
Make it your goal to help your children to love God. Then they will act wisely even when they are not with you. Just as God teaches by example, teach your children to love God by your example.
It is all about clear rules and a clever game so play it comfortably ❤
Really interesting technique and approach. What would have been the consequence had your son actually gone? I imagine you don't want to threaten them with a consequence of course.
I will listen to this over and over again when I feel that I’m starting to lose it
bless your heart, body, mind, and soul <3
This is the hardest thing for me bc I’m bipolar 1 and I’ve always struggled to control my mind. I’ve been to therapy and on a million meds since 14 and being a mother to two babies makes me so guilty bc I feel like I’m always failing them and myself .
Thanks for the video, I controlled my anger today morning, when my 5 yr old brought 10supplies of soap and water from washroom, to wash his toys, and spread the soapy water all over his room over the wooden floor. You have to see to believe how can a small human can do all that….I was on official concall in other room for 1 hour. I almost yelled, but I got a dry wiping cloth and started wiping, just telling him now your room's floor is spoiled and we might to close this room… He actually joined me in the cleaning effort 🙂
Watched and spent hours on relationship videos only to realise that my boyfriend actually needed these 🥹
After giving your child two choices and the child does not pick either one, what do you do when the child starts to cry?? I gave my three-year-old two choices, but he did not like either one. When I did the choice, he started to cry and resisting. What do you do in that case??
Hi Dr. Paul. I have a 3 year that has PTSD I believe from me not being his life too much for 8 months. Me, myself, 9 yr old boy, and 3yr old. My 3 yr old is SO defiant. My boys and I used to be close, especially the 3yr old. He is just SO mean and says some horrible things. I was hoping that you could point me in to the right direction to your tools and go in a better order. I've been jumping around your videos and i feel like I'm missing some in between. Some guidance would awesome! I feel like I really enjoy your videos and I have a better time understanding and using your tools. Any help would be great!
How do i deal with a stubborn child who gets handsy when hes upset. He will push me or grab me and cry and scream
The suggested breathing tips are a part of yoga practiced in india!🙏🏼🌹
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Ive been practicing this advice from he very beginning wth my first child especially bcuz i agree with the appraoch in the nature of my personality. And ive been excercising patience, kindness and having reactive control learned at their fullesy for my tool set for this method to work for me.
But it seems to hav back fired on me. The child appears to hav become convinced he has more power and entitlement than i. When moments call for me to step in and assert MYSELF as the PARENT he cant handle it.
And i do try to sit and talk to him and empathize with him and let him know that he is being heard and move at a pace that allows him to draw out action and consequence. But he confuses all of this loving appraoch as if he plays the role of a tyrant in my life.
My daughter is crying a lot. I mean a lot, what can I do she cries outside and inside home. I tried everything, ignored her, and gave it things if it's needed but still struggling. I have one autistic kid, and he runs in marts,malls everywhere. me and my husband don't have a life we can't even shopping,picnic etc if we are ,continues struggling to handles both running or if my daughter in cart seat she cries and son running all the time we faced I don't know what to do both of them not listening at all .i can't implement it due to not following my commands. i am concerned about what happened if we were not there, not always living to take care of 😔
My housemaster used to say…”To the mind through the behind “
I think my 6yo is too young for these tips most of the time. When we have 5 min to leave and she's stopped cooperating knowing that it will put us behind the 8 ball. None of this will get us out the door in time.
I am a sister and I was crying for days because of my little siblings ,a teenager and a child .I always tell thel to clean after they mess up stuff but they don't listen 😭
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