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How to think about your narcissistic parent





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21 thoughts on “How to think about your narcissistic parent”

  1. I needed this so bad Dr Ramani. I've watched virtually all of your content throughout the last couple of years but I've been struggling with my mom (and her pain pill addiction) recently and the way you sternly said "you were robbed"..the way you sternly said all of this, I broke down crying my eyes out to finally hear it. …this has been going on my entire life. Always. It was always about or around some sort of addiction. The lying, the stealing, the gaslighting…it's so hard to take all of this. I think I'd be better at a shelter at this point. I can't believe it's come to that. I moved here from Portland to help them because years went by and it's like I would completely forget how they are. I don't know how I missed this video before. But I've been commenting on your stuff for years (Clinton G) and I just…I really needed this. Thank you so much. I needed to hear this, I needed to cry like this. Ugh I just can't take it anymore and finally someone says something that makes ABSOLUTE sense. (At 11:56…) My closest friends have always said it the other way around such as "You have to stay out of reach Clint…" Or "they're going to always have an excuse for needing money" and whatnot…I just really needed to hear this. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I don't understand why even therapists I've seen over the years could never explain this the way you can. You are wonderful. Absolutely wonderful.

  2. Narcissistic parents are bad enough, but honestly, the flying monkeys and enablers make me even angrier. They are the ones that could actually do something to help and instead choose to be part of the problem.

  3. I knew I was a fighter- fought for a good life. I treated myself the way my parents never did. Its been a constant battle but I'll never give up. Take yourself out for ice cream, buy something small you never would have got when you were little, talk to yourself like a good friend. Tell yourself you're a bada$$ because you keep trying everyday to be a good person and live a normal as can be life❤.

  4. My mom called cps for months til they gave her custody bcus I let her have him 3 days a week to use her address for superior school district with best special ed program in area. So me 4 days the poorer district 10 miles away in low income neighborhood. She kicked us out so ww moved into friends 5 bdrm house in a "bad area". 2 other kids living with us. We loved it. But my mom complained it was innaprooriat housing cps finally placated to her by saying with his mental illness he shouldn't be living in two different homes. Its unstable. she then took over my allowed visitation . Abused him as she did me. Messy room is a tragedy. Put him in mental hospital when she couldnt handle him. Pock your battles not roll around on the floor pulling eachother hair, YES THAT HAPOENED. My dad choked him with chord. Police make cops report and send my son to mental hospital for defending himself. Evebtusl cos returbed him to me with apologies amd DONT EVER BRING HIM BACK TO THAT HOUSE.
    So tell me why she was able to use my sons 40,000 soc security reward from my disability to pay a lawyer to take me to family court. Get a fake pfa for a fight that nvr happened. Photos of injuries from car accident
    All to keep me away from him if I cant go to her house!.
    Eventually the SCHOOL beggld me to get custody back theh couldnt deal with her anymore.
    She now has alzeimers which I said years ago and I was considered the crazy one

    Any mom who doesn't fight CPS until you look crazy because they don't listen to you deserves to have your child taken away but you're supposed to remain calm and do what they tell you. While the child is being abused in a shelter.
    So how is it that if CPS Southern child should not live with their grandmother just go to Family Court

  5. Thank you for the encouragement! Yes – 2 rotten parents – a raging narcissist father and a collapsed covert mother – really tough – you are absolutely spot on. But yes, choosing love for myself – after years of not – does make me a hero and I am grateful to hear it!! 💗

  6. Stop excusing their behaviour because of their backstory or because they have "sacrificed so much". WOW. Spoke directly to me and gave me hope that maybe I CAN set myself free after all these years!

  7. Surviving these types of parents is always living in a war zone. Must separate and move away far away. They never change and will always disappoint and drive you crazy. They make you insecure with low self-esteem. Please focus on yourself, and God is your real father.

  8. I live across the world in South Korea, and e everyone is explaining the same experiences and the same personality as my mother. How can these people from different backgrounds cultures and countries have the exact same behaviors and personality. I honestly think it's the same demon (jezabaul spirit). All my mom's family members had compassion. My aunt hates my mom, too. I don't think it's their childhood, but it's really demonic. They are cruel and not normal.

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