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Setting Boundaries Effectively: Dr. Becky Kennedy #parenting





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50 thoughts on “Setting Boundaries Effectively: Dr. Becky Kennedy #parenting”

  1. Hmm maybe make them understand “why” you dont want them to press the button. Without understanding youll get nowhere, and for those of you that will say: fuck that or who has time for that. Don’t become a parent, because thats the only way you’ll raise a healthy child.

  2. So she didn't exactly set a boundary… she just punished him for past mistakes that she failed to set a boundary for. Once she decided to make the boundary suddenly, all the times he did, it was bad even though he never knew it was bad.

  3. Aside from the boundaries… Try "can" statements. Say something like: "you can press two buttons". Can statements are hard for us to get the knack of but they give the other person especially if they aren't mature enough, and option. They work. Thanks for your post. YouTube just directed me to this channel, which I love. Thanks again

  4. My mother would just swing a broom stick, use a belt.. a 2×4 until i started using my brain and questioned my own behavior before I would do it. Turns out, I became really good at figuring out what I could and couldn't do.

  5. Thats american bs. As a latino my mom would tell me: if you touch the damn buttons you dead… and if I dare do that rhe killer belt would appear. It worked every time. I grew up just fine. Im a doctor now. This bs of negociation with the kids and giving them any power is what has usa full of useless and entitled teens and kids.

  6. Bull Shite. physchobable…. Tell them like it is, apparently they can say what Gender they are therefore they can handle the truth… Do Not Do That Have Respect For Other People… End of Story. Start acting Like a Mature Adult and teach your children manners not your hocus pocus Feels..

  7. Poor Parenting. Look your son in the eye, and as Fierce as you can be, you simply say “Do NOT push the button”
    Accommodating his supposed”inability to control” is BS. If it were a live electrical wire, would you be so passé? Don’t think so.

  8. And She's a Doctor… What a joke. anyone who's been a kid before knows that this is a recipe for disaster. All 7 billion of us.

    This is why children need FATHERS in their lives. Women are so emotional in their parenting. It clouds their judgement.

    So what happens when you die, the child will just keep pressing buttons? That's not parenting, that's babysitting.

  9. Boundary? LMAO. "I'm gonna tell your father if you keep pressing the buttons" is the ultimate fix for kids with "issues". Bountry. The kid is probably thinking "WTF is boundary!?" Yeah lady, keep throwing more empty words to the kid.

  10. 😱😱😱😱 Talk, talk, tallk, talk, talk. A boundaryy is when your child doesnt follow instructions and receives the consequences of not listening. Women like this have kids that get schooled by cops.

  11. That is not really teaching them consequences for their a actions, how about something that actually effects them like if you push the buttons when we get in the elevator you won't get your treat or snack when we get home or you will have to sit in time out or I will take your favorite toy away for day. They have to understand that if they do something they were told not too there is a foreseeable consequence, with the method given it only stops the behavior one time not future times. Your not really teaching them anything just preventing them from doing it one time. How many times will you have to do that before they understand probably too many times in my opinion.

  12. No… a boundary is a wall that if breached will exact a painful consequence.

    This Mother's idea of enforcement is not parenting. It is distraction management (akin to preschool classroom management), that requires a whole lot of energy from the "parent. It requires NOTHING from the child. Thus the child learns nothing.

    GOD help us…

  13. I'm just going to be honest here. What if you put yourself between the buttons and your kid so now they think it's a game to get to the buttons? Now they're trying to push you out of the way to get there. 😂

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  15. That’s called a consequence, Dr. Becky. But your contrived framework doesn’t do consequences, right? You teach skills…Not a fan of your work, and its confusing effect on families I know. You try to teach toddlers skills that are for young adults. Little kids don’t need to learn to self-validate yet and when people try your methods – it gets dicey quick.

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