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Or you could pinch his ears and say "don't you dare to go near the buttons" like a normal mom…
a boundary requires wrestling, finally i got it
How about you just teach the child to obey you because you're the adult and they're the child.
Hmm maybe make them understand “why” you dont want them to press the button. Without understanding youll get nowhere, and for those of you that will say: fuck that or who has time for that. Don’t become a parent, because thats the only way you’ll raise a healthy child.
Why are Americans incapable of saying the T in buttons? There are fkn two of them and it's not hard. Silent double T's aren't a thing.
So she didn't exactly set a boundary… she just punished him for past mistakes that she failed to set a boundary for. Once she decided to make the boundary suddenly, all the times he did, it was bad even though he never knew it was bad.
Buttons!
Not buddens
Sounds good but really far of the mark.
I would use the stairs as a punishment 😅
By this logic please explain how to set boundaries with women (if need be) without invoking feminist wrath! 😛
Asian parents looking at this…. 😅
Aside from the boundaries… Try "can" statements. Say something like: "you can press two buttons". Can statements are hard for us to get the knack of but they give the other person especially if they aren't mature enough, and option. They work. Thanks for your post. YouTube just directed me to this channel, which I love. Thanks again
do the same thing with women 😎
A quick smack on the face made me learn real quick. Im no parent but one observation…if you cut out the crust on a sandwich upon a childs request…your raising a pussy 100%
My mother would just swing a broom stick, use a belt.. a 2×4 until i started using my brain and questioned my own behavior before I would do it. Turns out, I became really good at figuring out what I could and couldn't do.
Thats american bs. As a latino my mom would tell me: if you touch the damn buttons you dead… and if I dare do that rhe killer belt would appear. It worked every time. I grew up just fine. Im a doctor now. This bs of negociation with the kids and giving them any power is what has usa full of useless and entitled teens and kids.
Bull Shite. physchobable…. Tell them like it is, apparently they can say what Gender they are therefore they can handle the truth… Do Not Do That Have Respect For Other People… End of Story. Start acting Like a Mature Adult and teach your children manners not your hocus pocus Feels..
This bih gets paid for this?
😅😅 i have seen kids test that boundary in many entertaining ways .
Usually with kicks .
Wow! What a genius idea 💡 are people seriously that bad at parenting that they would actually think this is an abstract concept.
Yeah but the kid didn't learn anything. Kinda bad parenting advice
Poor Parenting. Look your son in the eye, and as Fierce as you can be, you simply say “Do NOT push the button”
Accommodating his supposed”inability to control” is BS. If it were a live electrical wire, would you be so passé? Don’t think so.
Maybe if you pronounced your T's, your kid would know what you meant!
Congratulations, you’ve just given the child a challenge.
😅😅😅😂😂try spanking 😅😅😅😂😂
A boundary is something you show them not tell them.
or you could explain why you dont press the buttons, because you gave him no reason to listen to you, lots of kids will behave if they understand what theyre doing
I wish my mom had used a boundary. She just smacked the smile off my face when pressed the button.
And She's a Doctor… What a joke. anyone who's been a kid before knows that this is a recipe for disaster. All 7 billion of us.
This is why children need FATHERS in their lives. Women are so emotional in their parenting. It clouds their judgement.
So what happens when you die, the child will just keep pressing buttons? That's not parenting, that's babysitting.
If you touch a single button in the elevator you’re gonna have a bad day son. Problem solved!
Boundary? LMAO. "I'm gonna tell your father if you keep pressing the buttons" is the ultimate fix for kids with "issues". Bountry. The kid is probably thinking "WTF is boundary!?" Yeah lady, keep throwing more empty words to the kid.
😱😱😱😱 Talk, talk, tallk, talk, talk. A boundaryy is when your child doesnt follow instructions and receives the consequences of not listening. Women like this have kids that get schooled by cops.
Not sure creating a physical boundary in the elevator with your body is the best example.
He has the ability to manage those urges. And you have the ability to set that boundary.
That is not really teaching them consequences for their a actions, how about something that actually effects them like if you push the buttons when we get in the elevator you won't get your treat or snack when we get home or you will have to sit in time out or I will take your favorite toy away for day. They have to understand that if they do something they were told not too there is a foreseeable consequence, with the method given it only stops the behavior one time not future times. Your not really teaching them anything just preventing them from doing it one time. How many times will you have to do that before they understand probably too many times in my opinion.
If you press those buttons, you will get a spank. Now, THATS a boundary.
This is stupidity… reasoning with a 5 year old… nope
No… a boundary is a wall that if breached will exact a painful consequence.
This Mother's idea of enforcement is not parenting. It is distraction management (akin to preschool classroom management), that requires a whole lot of energy from the "parent. It requires NOTHING from the child. Thus the child learns nothing.
GOD help us…
So when I say … when we get in the elevator don’t touch shii and if you do I’m going to DDT yo azz … I just set a boundary
Too nice. He’ll walk all over you when he’s a teenager.
First teach him that you don’t know how to say button !!
Hit him … Can tell you werent spanked either ..
Nice. 😊
I grew up on the 23rd floor. After a certain point, you get over it. Because your mother smacks you…..
I'm just going to be honest here. What if you put yourself between the buttons and your kid so now they think it's a game to get to the buttons? Now they're trying to push you out of the way to get there. 😂
That Quote reminds me of A book 📚 📖 📕 called – 💯💘iLOVE reading childrens books still actually, even tho my kids are adults now 🤩😍🥰😁🤣🎵Eloise🎵
I understand her point, but that is also control. Children that feel too much control from parents can struggle later. I wonder if there's a middle way.
Its trying to anticipate every situation and plan what you will need to do. Sometimes we dont know the situation we will be walking into.
I absolutely love the way you explain things!
That’s called a consequence, Dr. Becky. But your contrived framework doesn’t do consequences, right? You teach skills…Not a fan of your work, and its confusing effect on families I know. You try to teach toddlers skills that are for young adults. Little kids don’t need to learn to self-validate yet and when people try your methods – it gets dicey quick.
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