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The Quranic Essence of Parenting – Khutbah by Nouman Ali Khan





Quranic examples of parent-child relationships shed light on many issues that plight Muslim families all over the world today, says Nouman Ali Khan. While the story of Prophet Ibrahim (AS), whose father built idols that he destroyed, reminds us that imaan is not only influenced by the environment in which we are raised, that of Nuh (AS) and his son teaches us that even if you are a Prophet, you may end up with a child who refuses to accept Allah’s message. Although we have a responsibility towards our children, we have no control over the results. Allah has endowed all human beings with the ability to think for themselves which means that once your child reaches adulthood, he/she will have to make their own choices. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) famously told his daughter Fahemah that she should fear Allah because she will have to stand before Him at her own merits, for even he cannot intervene on her behalf. Risking our spiritual and emotional relationship with our children can be avoided if we take a cue from Luqman (AS) who waited for the right circumstances to lecture his son about religion. And to sons and daughters, beware because the crimes you commit against your parents will only lead to perpetual loss and agony both in this life and the next.

23 thoughts on “The Quranic Essence of Parenting – Khutbah by Nouman Ali Khan”

  1. Amin yarabi. Aalamin. Beautiful lecture Marsha Allah. May Allah swt grant us sabr jameel. May Allah protect you and your family in this world and Akhira.

  2. Allah has punished my parents by providing them a worst son like me. But Insha'Allah Allah will take my life soon and make my parents life trouble free.
    Please say Ameen Sum'Ameen Ya Rab'ul Aal'Ameen.

  3. What about how parents should treat their young kids? What abput abusive parents? Who beat their small children over small things like eating slow, or little mistakes. Who expect 'payback' for the rest of the childs life? Never taught the child to pray. And always always negate the childs efforts. Makes effort for the children to hate the father. And so on and so forth. And then goes on to say that we'll go to hell because we said she mistreated us after years and years of abuse. What about children who are in such environments? Don't children have any rights ?

  4. My parents even whole family is toxic. My parents keep cursing me since childhood till date. They haven't changed a bit. Father curses that u see your cries will reach sky. U see you will get destroyed bla bla and mother also curses day and night. They say we will sell u to army , police , this man that man. I get violent then. My heart and mind wants to beat them to the core and I want to run away and jump into lake. I am fed up. Depressed . my life is not going well its all because of their curses. I want to get rid of them. When they get heart attacks, brain attacks its me who does their khidmat and cry for their health. But they have no love in their hearts for me. Kya aise hoty hai maa baap.? Mei baap ka khana khati hu aur shath oski hai baki mei apne sary kharchy khud uthati hu. Utho tou galya betho tou galya , bath lo tou bolty hai zina kr k aye hai. Mei pagal hoti ja rhi hu. I have become negative. Kehty hmesha barbad rhoge tabah hojaoge. Ar b bht kch. Mei cheekti hu chilati hu. Mje lg rha hai mei pagal hojaoge. Mei pagal ni hona chahti. Maa baap aise hoty hai ? Maa ko srf beta khush rehna chaye. Ghr mei baap kch lata hai bety k hath mei thma deta hai. Mera b dil krta hai mei b khao jo unhune laya mgr wo unka beta ni deta. Wo unhune bety k lye laya hota hai. Ghr mei kahi se k kch b aye tou bety ko dety . mei jb demand krti hu mje b do ye kya khas hai tou mje kehty hai tm pagal ho . tm aise ho waise ho. I want to know gr aise maa baap ho jo zehni torture krty hai tou kya krna chaye insan ko. Mje khatra hai mei suicide kr lugi mei bardasht ni krskti. Tany mlty hai. Maa baap tany dety hai .they call me by names. Mei ya tou suicide kru ya bhag jao. Kya kru ? Mei suicide ni krna chahti I dnt want to go in hell

  5. The curses they give me hit my soul like arrows. That time I want to leave the world. I am alone depressed. Willing to do nothing but willing to be capable. But able to do nothing. I am lost waiting for death. I have no concern with life with this world. Whoever comes in my life deceives me although I being loyal. Everyone leaves me. My marriage is not happening. People come they like me but then things dont materialise. They like me and the process doesn't go further. I have had very tragic accidents in my life due to which I have become negative and my heart says nothing good is going to happen to u. I m tired. My life has become burden to me. I want to get rid of this burden. I want a peaceful sleep which I guess I can get under the earth. I am being stoned from every angle and every side. My siblings make fun of me , my bad health , my not being good status , not earning good money.

  6. My grandma always use my mother who passed away for me and my siblings to pray saying our mother will get punished if we don't pray. I felt like it was unfair because i should be held responsible not her, and i should pray for Allah not for my mother. At least i now know that my mother won't be responsible to my mistakes

  7. Alhamdulillah brother All Muslim women and Man beawere YOUR Own responsebluty Learn Deen Islam ectivate in YOUR practical life Yes yes please Ameen Again thanks AGAIN wwww

  8. MashAllah whenever im depressed about an issue his videos of the topic exactly of my problem comes and I feel so calm and relaxed after hearing him .he is like light in the darkness MashAllah.

  9. 📌FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH!
    🍃SubhanAllahi wa bihamdihi
    SubhanAllahil ‘Aziym.

    🔆Allahumma Salli ‘Ala Sayidina Muhammad.

    🍃La ilaha illallahu Muhammadur rosululloh ashhadu alla ilaha illallahu wa ashhadu anna Muhammadan abduhu wa rosuluh.

    🔆Astag’firullohAllaziy la ilaha illa huval hayyul qoyyum wa atubu ilayh.

    🍃Allahumma lakal hamdu kamaa yambaghiy li jalali vajhika va li ‘aziymi sultonik..

  10. If we want to save the Ummah from disobaying Allah & get astrayed, let us work on our kids.
    Thus, please, please, please prepare structured, complete guide on Islamic way of raising children.
    If it is available, please share me the link.

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