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The Single Most Important Parenting Strategy | Becky Kennedy | TED





Everyone loses their temper from time to time — but the stakes are dizzyingly high when the focus of your fury is your own child. Clinical psychologist and renowned parenting whisperer Becky Kennedy is here to help. Not only does she have practical advice to help parents manage the guilt and shame of their not-so-great moments but she also models the types of conversations you can have to be a better parent. (Hint: this works in all other relationships too.) Bottom line? It’s never too late to reconnect.

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26 thoughts on “The Single Most Important Parenting Strategy | Becky Kennedy | TED”

  1. I don't know how old the author's son is, but my son is 7 and it feels like he hates everything: all food, all activities, school, etc. It's very difficult.

  2. Only in America they do this nonsense. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  3. Sometimes parents just need a break. I know I do!! If you’re ever feeling like you just want to take a little time to yourself Ms Graces corner is for our littles to be read to and learn English and Spanish. ❤

  4. if your kids says he hates you, you're not qualified to speak about this. psychology isn't a real science. my heard this from my psych phd wife.

  5. This talk is so great and makes (not only parents I guess) really emotional. Thank you so much!
    Is there any chance for German subtitles as I really want to share it (also with my parents‘ generation who find it hard to understand English, even using the English subtitles)? Would be amazing!

  6. Wow, Becky's advice is so refreshing! I've always struggled with feeling like I need to be "perfect" as a parent, but she really emphasizes the importance of connection over control. I love her focus on empathy and understanding kids' emotions. This is definitely a talk I'll be revisiting!

  7. Proverbs 22:6 advises, "Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it." This verse emphasizes the foundational role of early education and guidance in shaping a child's character and beliefs. The phrase "train up" implies intentional and consistent teaching, not only through words but also through actions and example.

    Educating children from a young age in the ways of the Bible instills moral values, wisdom, and a strong faith foundation that can guide them throughout their lives. The verse suggests that this early training will have a lasting impact, influencing their decisions and behavior even into adulthood.

    In a broader sense, Proverbs 22:6 underscores the responsibility of parents, educators, and mentors to nurture children spiritually and morally, ensuring they grow up with a solid understanding of biblical principles. This verse encourages proactive engagement in teaching and modeling Godly values from an early age, recognizing the profound impact it can have on shaping a child's future path.

  8. I did love this lecture and I think a lot of parents need to hear that. We are teaching emotional regulation and it’s sometimes hard for us to regulate our own.
    We also need to remind ourselves that we can use the weak moments as learning experiences. Having a plan like that will definitely help.

    “Not my favorite” is still not very nice. After apologizing for yelling, I would definitely teach some better responses. He could just explain that he feels like you guys have had too many repeats with chicken and even throw in some ideas for tomorrow. He should definitely still thank you for cooking for him also.

  9. Parenting in 2024: Broken homes, contact visits, teens leave for Uni & meet their new life partner and never return – meaning you won't see your grandchildren. Dropping off your tired kids off at "breakfast club" at stupid-o-clock in the morning so both career driven parents can get to the office. Then, at the end of the day heat up over-processed convenience food and stare at screens all night.

  10. I recommend everyone to get the book titled "Parenting with Purpose: Raising Resilient and Compassionate Children". It changed my relationship with my children. I think its available on amazon.

  11. I don't understand why parents get so annoyed over the small things. I see it all the time. If that was my kids I'd be thankful they wasn't destroying the place in a rage or swearing at the person or something lol

  12. Many perents appreciate clinical psychologist Becky Kennedy's insights, finding her practical advice invaluable for managing gulit and fostering healthier conversations, proving it's never too late to reconnect with their children and improve all relationships.

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