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Things that may disqualify you to be a foster parent





Want to become a foster parent? Here are some things that may disqualify you, submitted by followers šŸ’› Of course check with your agency or county to get the exact rules for licensing. Some things are up to the discretion of the person completing your home study and they can disqualify you for a variety of reasons.

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35 thoughts on “Things that may disqualify you to be a foster parent”

  1. Wait not telling your kid they are adopted is considered unhealthy? I donā€™t think you should never tell them but I think not telling them when they are super young isnā€™t a big deal but ofc thatā€™s just my opinion. I didnā€™t know that was frowned upon

  2. And this might be why there's so many kids in foster care.

    Group homes have more kids than their Max capacity for a family

    If you have to fingerprint the rental property, why not all the neighbors.

    Why does it affect the foster kid if the other kid doesn't know they're adopted. Pretty sure the foster kid is going to know they are a foster kid.

  3. On the dog thing, ā€œWe havenā€™t had her trained yetā€ is a MASSIVE red flag because of the phrasing.

    ā€œWe havenā€™t HAD her trained yet.ā€ As in, they donā€™t think they have to adapt any part of their lifestyle to a petā€™s needs, or do any of the work in understanding itā€™s behavior or how their actions might play a role. Theyā€™re the kind of people who declaw their cats instead of accepting that cats need to scratch and just buying some scratch pads.

    These people wonā€™t listen to a child or try to understand how the child feels or what they need. These people donā€™t actually want kids or pets; they want living accessories. They want living toys. They want living furniture. And theyā€™ll abuse or abandon their pets and adopted kids as soon as their neglect has caused trauma for the child or animal and turns into behaviors they donā€™t like.

    These are the kind of people who should be restricted to fostering Cabbage Patch dolls and adopting pet rocks.

  4. When I was 18, I lived at my sisterā€™s house and I had to get fingerprinted whenever they did foster care.
    I ended up moving out within a couple of months after.
    Apply for a job at Walmart and the Walmart person was so adamant that they had to do a security check with me. She mentioned it like four or five times I looked at her finally and said listen. I just had to get one done for foster care eating inquired getting fingerprinted and giving birth as well as my adopted name.
    Kind of a few minutes. OK will give you a call when everything gets clear. šŸ˜‚

  5. Ahuh. And yet I see ads on free television, ad nauseum, telling us all we should foster and/or adopt. She didnā€™t mention the race thing, either. One white kid who loved his adoptive p family got removed simply because of the race card. The bureaucracy didnā€™t give a damn about his wishes or their wishes. Race was the criteria.

  6. Not a single person from the state asked my sister and I if we wanted the kids in our house, my mom took our brushed off ā€œok whateverā€ as an A-okay. Not shortly after, my mom learned it was not okay or whatever. Fostering is a lot of time with the child and in our case at least, took a lot out of my mom and strained the relationships with my sister and I. I wish someone besides her asked because I wouldā€™ve absolutely said I didnā€™t like the idea, at least not with needing her majority of the time still

  7. Have you heard of the two people in West Virginia that were just arrested because their four black foster children were being kept in bar stalls 12 hours a day, and the other 12 hours a day they were forced to work on the farm? It might've been adoption but I'd love to hear her take on this since this is something that's a part of her life..
    Foster care or adoption services let these two white racists enslave, neglect, & abuse FOUR black children in 2024.

  8. What if people had to follow these rules to be allowed to have a baby and we all accepted abortion as the main rule bcs goddamn why are shitty parents allowed to parent

  9. Do you feel that being in a queer relationship impacts your ability to qualify? Especially in a state where religious organizations primarily handle the foster care system, contracted by the state?

  10. Years ago, my best friendā€˜s parents decided to become foster parents. When they interviewed my friend and her two siblings, they all said they did not want their parents to become foster parents, that their parents didnā€™t have enough time for the three of them as it was. Well it didnā€™t seem to matter, within a few months, they had a pair of brothers, and two unrelated little girls added to the household! Oh, and my friends teenage aunt also lived in the home. So there were 10 people living inside a four bedroom home! So obviously they didnā€™t care what the kids said. But my friend and her siblings came to appreciate how lucky they were living in a home with clean clothes and fresh food and no physical abuse and they came to Love their foster siblings and care about them very much and become very protective over them.

  11. As someone thatā€™s stuck in a house with foster kids, as a teenager I did not get a say at all, infact I was threatened by my own mom if I said no, they let my mom sit in with me when the person asked if I wanted to share my parents

    Social workers need to take kids in private and ask them because some parents arenā€™t as nice as they seem

  12. I can't be a foster parent, but I was a foster kid. And was loved by one family and abused by another.bits all LUCK Of the DRAW With foster care. And most kids get separated šŸ˜© šŸ˜¢

  13. It's rules like these that make it impossible for these kids to find homes. One of my social workers had a wife who said that most people in my country were not cut out to adopt children because of rules like these. At the same time, the csa has ruined the lives of these kids. CSA is Canada's most corrupt organization. Not just for these.

  14. I was wondering. Ok, I have Autism and ADHD but I live alone, well kind of. I live alone besides my service dog. I have trouble with taking care of myself fully but can take care of others fine. Would it be ok for me to do foster care? life, housing, work and all is fine but would that be a deal breaker?

  15. I'm surprised the bio kids get a say. My cousin was 12 when he was basically kicked out of his house because his stepmom insisted on fostering (she was a former foster child) and he wasn't happy with the younger foster kids. He got into a physical altercation with one of the foster girls that she started and his dad sent him to boarding school so he wouldn't make them lose their foster care license. I commend foster parents but it can be an awful experience for the bio kids to have to deal with all the chaos and kids who have severe behavior problems. I wonder how parents feel if they want to foster and their bio kids are dead set against it.

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