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Toxic Parenting and Teenagers || The MA Podcast





Toxic Parenting and Teenagers || The MA Podcast || Ep 17

Timecodes:

0:00 – Intro
0:40 – Teaching teenagers
1:25 – Story of a Hafiz e Quran
6:10 – Is Quran a punishment?
8:50 – Are parents really at fault?
9:32 – Toxic Parents
11:45 – Who is a Toxic Person?
13:25 – Parents invading privacy
16:45 – Woman’s dominance in homes
19:20 – Children’s way of making decisions
21:30 – Parenting of Married Children
27:30 – Categorizing children by Age
41:00 – Who is the boss?
41:38 – Being Over Critical
44:20 – Over possessive and Over controllable
48:20 – Message to Teenagers
51:15 – Empathy is a universal skill
54:07 – Can parents check the phone of their children?
57:25 – Can parents compare children?
1:03:02 – Can parents punish children?
1:05:10 – Islam provides equality
1:08:50 – Advice to All
1:14:25 – Outro

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40 thoughts on “Toxic Parenting and Teenagers || The MA Podcast”

  6. n how to braid

    اپ نے بہت اچھی باتیں کی ھیں ماشاءالللہ لیکن جن کے والدین پڑھیں لکھیں نہی ھیں میں نے ان کے بچوں کو اپنے والدین کی عزت کرتے دیکھا ھے لیکن دوسرے بچوں کو ھمشہ ایسا نہی دیکھا

  9. Raptor Abdullah

    As-salamu alaykum bahut behtarin topic aapane nikala hai baccha jab tak metric nahin kar le jab tak use Pran Hills Nahin karvana chahie Jab vah Matric kar le Apne shauk se vah Quran hifz Karega to Jyada Behtar to padh sakega aur Achcha Rahega uske liye

  12. Rehana khilji

    Please Quran Pak K bary may aisi baat say parhez karain jo Quran pak kay chericterstics kay khilaf ho. Allah nay Quran pak ko asan banaya aur is may asani paida ke. may koi khala may baat nahe kar rhe, mery apny ghar may 12 bach Iqra say hif kar chukay hain. Bacho kay corporal punishmant ke may bhe mukhalif hoon. Ghar ka mahoul enabling hona chaheye, jaisay k tareeqa e sunnat hay.

  14. Nick

    aunty is so protective that her kids will be listening to this, she opposed so many right things, and said bachay bhi tou aesa karte, bro, bachay sekhte ap se hi hein.

  15. allyayaan

    Was excited coz i thought it was in English?
    It's misleading to have English Titles then have the topic in another language without subtitles.
    Very important topic 😢

  17. Javeria Ijaz

    I'm just at my breaking point. I'm so done with everything. No matter whatever I do its never enough. They are always scolding me and taunting me for everything I do. I can't even ask for my favourite food now. Its pathetic. I'm just done.

  18. ayesha khan

    My biggest mistake was only that I'm a girl..and my parent's don't like it…once upon a time i was muslim but due to abusive behaviour of my parents,i made distance form god and just start hating him…now I'm an atheist without any regret what life throws me in the past…I recovered from my past and now living my life with full happiness with the love of my life

  20. Fariya Afreen

    Jazakallahu khairan kaseera.. U guys r doing a really great job.. got to learn alot frm the podcast May Allah help us learn & accept it according to his pleasure

  26. Svera Noor

    I was 4,5 years old..I saw my father was beating every day to my elder brother bcz WO sham ko bahar SE khyal k maghrib k baad Ata tha…at that time he was about 9,10 years old. To Roz Ka ye tha, k jab WO Ata Abu usy bohat zyada maarty janwro ki tra….mjhy Yaad Hy abi b ..m 4,5 Saal ki the ..or mery Abba g mery Bry Bhai ko nahaty huwey washroom SE Nanga tha WO …usy bahar nikal k SB k Samny pipe SE mara …ham joined family me raha krty thy..to you can imagin 2 families Dekh rhi hyn k ek bachy ko Nanga Hy WO Naha Raha hy .usy gussy me washroom SE nikal k maara..I'm feeling so sad to say that .i don't want to say anything against my father bcz WO b insan hyn mery Abba Hyn..now my brother is in lockup bcz of serious incident due to his mental illness…

    I just want to say k plzz ab to itni videos hyn parenting py..shadi se pehly parenting k lectures ly Lyn..phir shadi kryn..ta k mazeed bachy in traumas or zulm se na guzryn

  27. cookie

    Jab mom har waqt galia deti ho aur har waqt taunt karti ho aur teenagers ko marti bhi ho
    And ajeeb behavior ho us ka 😢😢
    Tho phir bacho ko kia karna chaheye????

  29. Arooj Akram

    i don't even feel confident to send this to my parents …. because I know they will not understand this out of the blue video which I have send ….. and I don't know I am able to face their reaction if I send this … Because I don't wanna pin point their mistakes because they will not understand this but instead their blaming cycle will start all over …in many things I am at wrong but I can't able to correct them even if I try….. i am emotionally drained …. Now I am unable to forgive them or even myself …. but still trying to make our home environment to be breathable. I have experience lose (death of the close one) three yreas ago and still unable to cope with is biggest lose. May be that is why I am unable to function properly and hurts close people around me …… (just wanted to write this because I feel relieved to tell how I actually feel)(By the way don't feel worried I will be fine INSHAALLAH)

  30. AK Dhamial

    I think in Pakistan it is NOT a patriarchal family system, like Islam, but a matriarchal, which is a Hindu based culture! It is not the men that have dominant influence in the family but the WOMEN however it looks like, a show of the man as if he leads the family. & the women are always trying to create future clans! Including marriages. They are for the mother more than the boy that's married. Too much control of the parents. Children never really become independent thinking adults as a result. The parents fear? That they'll become independent of them. The children aren't meant to be independent. Which is unislamic. You aren't supposed to raise them for yourself according to your culture/clan culture but raise them by god for the umah. For they are not owned by the parents, you are only their custodian for god! Here every mother thinks, mothers especially think they own them for life. So parents are to show, guide, discipline to age 14, after this age to be consultants only. So they learn to think for themselves. But here they don't want that here! But to keep them in control thought out the life of the parents. So this discussion is disjointed, scattered & going in all confusing directions. This is the problem here. The only one that seemed to be going in the direction IMO is the man that is an educationalist, beard, dark clothes but the woman just wouldn't let him speak! Nor anyone else! Think she is not only ruling her children but her husband in typical subcontinental style, I'm afraid. Parents raise their children for their egos, self-interest or that they are reflection of their egos. It isn't for the child's best interest. Sad. & unislamic.

  33. Mindset and Body Transformation with Qurat

    Simple and straight forward thing
    If you are given the responsibility as a parent, u r authority then behave like one plz
    You behave like shit and expect to be treated like god cz u r parents. M sorry it doesnt happen like this.
    Just cz Allah has said dobt do uff for parents doesn't nean you wouldnt be questioned by Allah when u die

  35. Alia Shaikh

    All these discussion are 1 percent of what I’m suffering, my mother , I feel shame calling her my mother, she hates me, she is jealous of me, she is a narcissist, she compares me with her, she can’t see me happy, she can see me wearing new clothes, she curses me, she abuses me , she doesn’t give me food to eat, infact she says run away with any boy because I will not give you anything from my property or money, by profession I’m a teacher she use to take all my salary and even she humiliates me in front of siblings my relatives that I doesn’t do anything for my family, sometime I feel like committing suicide, I can’t bear this situation any more, I can’t believe a mother could be like this. 😢😢😢

  39. saniha malik

    @muhammd Ali
    Sir
    Ye to sab batatay hain k bachon ko aise treat karna hai respect karain bachon ki aur kindness k sath upbringing karain.. koi b ye nahi batata k itne saalon se ghalat treat kar rahay thy bachon ko to ab usko theek kaise karna hai. Matlab k ab bachon ko mar kha kar ya dant kha kar sunnay ki adat par gai hai to ab unko kese theek karain parents kese dubara trust build karain.. k unka bacha dant khaye bagair ya maar khaye bagair unki bat maan le.. positive aur loving relation kese wapis renew kia ja sakta hai.. is par bi please bat karain…

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