The four main parenting styles — permissive, authoritative, neglectful and authoritarian — used in child psychology today are based on the work of Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist, and Stanford researchers Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin.
Each parenting style has different effects on children’s behavior and can be identified by certain characteristics, as well as degrees of responsiveness (the extent to which parents are warm and sensitive to their children’s needs) and demandingness (the extent of control parents put on their children in an attempt to influence their behavior).
When I uploaded this on TikTok, an overwhelming amount of people resonated with numbers 1 and 4, and I want to say for those of you who don’t feel seen or heard growing up, that you’re important, your voice matters and I wish you so much love and healing. ❤️
A weird combo of 1 and 3 i just don't know how to explain it…
When the self proclaimed gentle but mainly dismissive parent thinks they are being the soft/kind one and calls you the harsh one because you lay boundaries, try and reinforce good behaviour rather than reward tantrums, so they can shut them up and keep on their phone. But no you’re the bad guy
Oozing with bias. Option 3 voice is the most optimal while 1,2, and 4 are all stereotypes.
I'm 1 as a parent, and I talk with the voice tone as 3. Also, number 2 is an example of gentle parenting. Everything is a negotiation.
There is one in between gentle parenting and strict
My dad is the Gentle Parent, but my mom is bipolar.. so she somehow is a 3 in 1 mix of Authoritarian, Permissive and Neglectful parent.. just depends on her mood, and she can switch very quick between them.
Striced
My moms kind of #1 I hope to be #3
I want to be a better mother my life is hard sometimes I find myself shouting at my child, his father is not involved he doest even help financially im underpressure making it hard for me to enjoy my parenthood how do I do it?
Uhm…. I don’t like gentle parenting. Here’s something that can and will happen with gentle parenting
kid hits another kid
Mom: “oh honey we don’t hit other kids because……. Ok do better next time!” (No punishment, no grounding, no taking away electronics etc, which punishments like these teach him/her that this is what happens when you make bad decisions)
So the cycle will keep going. Your children need discipline.
Permissive parents ❤
I was raised by Authoritarian Parenting and Neglectful Parent but at the same time I have been raised by Gentle Parenting by one Teacher that became my Mom, and to the point that I call her "Mom" and she calls me "Nak" when in English it means "Child" then I call my own mother my "Biological Mother" when I am talking to my Mom❤
1 but one thing I hated about this is when I’m changing I can’t lock the side but they barge in without knocking so others have walked in on me changing in my own room even brothers so kinda annoying
1. I get yelled at so much and when I try to talk about it with my parents they just yell and say that I am the problem because people have worse lives
My parents fit in with the first one 😅
My parents full on neglect me I beg to just hang out with them but they say no and I will just leave and go to a friend's house and they dont care and they never drove me to school I had always walked they never wake me up for school either
I like how you got the eating processed food part of the neglectful parent 😂
My dad beat me to the point of red track marks ending in a bruise. Refuses to acknowledge wrong doing to this day. FUCK THAT FUCKING ABUSIVE FUCK!
The first one sadly 😞
None of the above…? My parents are wonderful yet don’t fit any of the options. They were very kind, showing us love and affection. At the same time, they were willing to enforce rules when needed. We knew that punishment would happen if we acted out too much. If we deserved to get in trouble, we would. We also weren’t given things for free. If you wanted something, you earned money for it by doing extra chores and being well behaved.
my grandmother brought my baby cousin (2 years) and she acted as the authoritative figure for my cousin. she is constantly screaming at her, pulling her clothes when she doesnt pay attention, and slaps her when she doesnt listen. but when i step in, i give her lots of attention but im strict with certain boundaries. my grandma doesnt understand why she prefers to be with me than her
3 is the dream of every kids
Why tf is everyone commenting paragraphs, you had to say all that?
In my early childhood psychology class, one of the lessons was to show us why we should parent in the same style as the culture that they will grow up in. Children will grow and prosper when they are best suited for the environment that they live in. We live in an authoritarian society
somehow my parents are all of them. It depends on their mood. But no matter their mood, in the evenings, they’re always 1.
1 and 3, a mix of both. They are actually respectful most of the time… but whenever my dad gets angry he sometimes say so much ilogical stuff, hence why i feel i can't no longer have a conversation with him, cause well… it's trauma stuff that happened to me in 2020
I feel like my mom is a mix of the first 3, as she does punish me often but to be fair, i see her reasoning as to why
More of the 1st but also a bit of the 3rd
my dad is 1 and my mom is 3– i feel safe with one but the other makes me feel like i should lie and hide stuff in fear he'll get mad (he tried to choke me once when i was little)
Mine was 1+2
my parents are controlling me like some puppeters, and with each string pull the puppet rips
My mom is a mix of 1 and 3.
Not bad….do better next time….
4. 4. Always 4.
1 & 4 as of now..
all
when i grow up, i want to be a gentle parent so my kids dont feel what i felt when i was younger 🙂
1 and 4
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