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What every new parent should know: Diana Eidelman at TEDxBGU





Drawing from her experience as a mother and a Family Counselor, Diana Eidelman shares her insights into challenging and often contradictory experiences that define parenting in the modern world. By drawing on keen insights into the psychology of both parent and child, Diana encourages listeners to consider the importance of active interaction, emotional stability, sustenance and physical touch to both infants and parents during the early, critical stages of child development.

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38 thoughts on “What every new parent should know: Diana Eidelman at TEDxBGU”

  1. Parenting is terrifying.. maybe because I study psychology and early childhood education!

    I'm truly debating if I want children.

    We're overpopulated and not having children sounds selfish to society.

    However, having kids also sounds selfish since none of us asked to be here.

    I'm a teacher, maybe I should stick with my career.

    I have the opportunity to see children grow and learn without them being mine.

  2. "We adore but we are at war"

    Wow. So because you can't watch TV like you wanted you are at war with your child? And everything you try to do is ruined by your baby? Honestly, this approach sounds like selfish parenting

  3. Well I hope that like any healthy spirited mother you would be proud of her even if she did not have children. If she had told you that she wants to focus on her career, travel, date or live her life to the fullest without kids I do hope you would've been proud also. As a mother. Because as long as you are fertile, making babies is easy. Raising them is another story. Women tend to live in a fairytale world posting about their kids on FB flaubting it just like the Watts did and look what behind closed doors happened. You cannot assume life is perfect by looking at what people post. Of course they only post the good stuff. Women are free now. We are not baby making machines. We can adopt. Take our own decisions and still be strong and hard working. This world is insane. Tons of kids need to be adopted. We don't need to make more babies. It's selfish.

  4. I'm already 22 weeks pregnant. Right now I am anxious about how to take care of the future little creature. Her experience brings tears to my eyes and also encourages me to embrace my boy and become a good mother. Thank you very much!

  5. This is incredibly helpful at the moment, and perhaps forever. We're currently enduring the newborn phase (3 weeks) and he's ultra fussy. We find ourselves constantly reaching for solutions and reassurance and this video/talk gives me hope and catharsis with a fresh perspective.

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  7. Based on recent brain research, I would add an extra T to the GIFT acronym – Talk! Language develop occurs through the social interactions between parent-caregiver and the child. It is through language that children build more brain connections leading to stronger thinking skills, problem solving skills, and social/emotional skills.

  8. For someone who brags about working in education!… I wonder what is the difference with the parents in developing and developed countries?!!.. They are human beings too arent they?!.. She talks about technology and material advantages those dont have anything to do with raising a baby.. Raising a baby is a strictly related to human interaction.. This woman had a perfect material life before having a baby.. Guess what having a child is beyond that and anything we could think so dont make a difference in between ppl in one part of the world thatn the other we are all the same and the work of raising a baby and the feelings we experience are the same for all parents… She should educate herself on being a human being

  9. I relate to this so much. The first 6 months were the hardest adaptation period I've ever experienced. To become a mother is almost to go through metamorphosis. My son was "high needs" also. He was born looking around, blue eyes wide open, taking in everything. The nurses called him "bright eyes" which is coincidentally something my husband called me in our very early days šŸ¤

    You want an alert baby…my son met all of his milestones early and at 16 months old is the happiest, cuddliest, and smartest baby I've ever known. He plays independently. He can problem solve. He amazes me. And he's still just as alert lol šŸ¤£ he literally doesn't stop moving until he sleeps, his energy gives me energy!

  10. Check out the book by Dr. Ted Nugent, "Your baby is speaking to you. Ninety (90%) percent of human communication is non-verbal in both directions." It is why I do what I do, teach "Baby Whispering." I have three courses that help those first couple of years. Sign Language, watching their body language un understanding combine with Infant Massage (healthy touch that releases oxytocin in both the baby and the parent) dramatically supports the bonding and connection. I just love her talk!

  11. This was reassuring for me because I am very physically affectionate and I was neglected of physical and general attention/affection from my parents growing up and a big worry of mine was that I was giving TOO MUCH affection and touching to my baby, I worried I was smothering her or that she will turn out a certain unbalanced way from it. She loves it though and I love giving it, so I'm glad to hear how important touching is šŸ„²

  12. šŸŽÆ Key points for quick navigation:

    00:12 šŸ¤± First-time parenting challenges
    – High need babies can be a shock to parents used to a certain lifestyle.
    02:09 šŸ§  Psychological impact of new parenthood
    – Parents can experience feelings of inadequacy and anxiety when facing challenges.
    04:03 šŸš¼ Reasons for parenting struggles
    – Lack of previous experience with babies creates challenges.
    – Conflicts arise due to differing lifestyles between parents and babies.
    – Fear of making mistakes and the pressure of parenting responsibilities contribute to stress.
    06:06 šŸ¤Æ Challenges of measuring success as a new parent
    – Parenting doesn't have clear milestones or measurements of success.
    – Being constantly interrupted can be frustrating for career-oriented individuals.
    08:46 ā¤ļø The GIFT method for new parents
    – The GIFT method (Get moving, Inhale, Feed, Touch) can help parents manage stress and connect with their babies.
    – Focusing on self-care and understanding one's emotions is crucial for new parents.

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