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What works better than punishments for kids with ADHD – ADHD Dude – Ryan Wexelblatt





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25 thoughts on “What works better than punishments for kids with ADHD – ADHD Dude – Ryan Wexelblatt”

  1. Im trying to find new ways to help my younger brother as he is getting into trouble a lot at school and at home there are a lot of arguments with our dad. My dad tries his absolute best to make sure my brother learns from his bad behaviour but nothing ever really changes and he continues doing bad things when he has been told not to. I think my dad could try the cleaning up technique and make sure my brother does something positive to counter the negative thing that has happened e.g. yelling at a teacher, maybe sending them an email or making a card for them to show he is sorry. But tโ€™s difficult to get him to want to take accountability as he is 13 and for some reason he just keeps doing the same things over and over. We donโ€™t know if it is his ADHD or just his hormones as he is just turned a teenager but it is getting very difficult for my dad to parent him as he is very rebellious and continues doing the same wrong things all the time. Keeps arguing with him. Always needs to be right and have the last word. Never takes no for an answer and even when thereโ€™s a reason, he will keep on pushing and says he doesnโ€™t understand. I think it might be better if me and my dad (as i care for my brother too) look for different methods accountability and teaching, because the ones we have at the moment are clearly not working, and instead of blaming my brother, maybe we should try a different technique. Any advice would be great, thank you.

  2. I have a 3 year old who doesn't listen to anything. He can hear just fine but it goes in one ear out right out of the other. I am stuck in limbo on how to discipline him because he's still learning how to process his feelings and navigate the world so i don't know how to yet.

  3. Hey I was going to go off today and I did not on a guy. Change is real. For ADHD kids, probably hard to do though. Agree, no ramifications equals future crazy kid who lashes out on elders and ect with no regard for respect. Not good. I was not raised right and even I learned the right way, though mostly from the internet, but watching people. Discernment is important.

  4. Hi adhd dude I am a 13 year old going through a tough time like doing stuff i'm not supposed to do, not doing as i am told, etc this video really helps, so thanks!

  5. Honestly as a mom who had a child in her early teen years, my kid is now 10. She has been diagnosed with ADHD and it does seem far a punishment she doesnโ€™t care. My mom and sister help raise her and we all talk to her and everything. Take things away from her and she still doesnโ€™t seem to care. I need to look into things thatโ€™ll get her more active because it seems like sheโ€™s so focused on being disobedient. Iโ€™m currently in tears rn because I just donโ€™t know what to do. It seems she wants to follow the wrong path every time. Will definitely try taking this approach.

  6. getting desensitized to punishment is so true,
    my Sunday school class was full of ADHD boys, and they were constantly acting up, so parents were always called, however, nothing ever changed, because after a while, they didn't react to the threat of corporal punishment

  7. In 2015 when Silento was big his song would play all the time. My dad lodestar son at 5 years old loved to dance to it. About three years later he started to behave abnormally; it was concerning. My wife and brother-in-law decided the whip and nay nay him to said Silento track. My son has since then became an academic student and is playing baseball for his schools team. Soon he will be enlisted in the military and I could not be prouder of him; great video.

  8. I was ADHD as a kid, but I got the cane at school and that sorted me out OK. In fact all the ADHD kids at my school got the cane back in the 1950's, and we all went on to become upright citizens. Of course that was before the stupid internet arrived to make us all crazy.

  9. I wish my teachers and principal and dad had seen this back around 1980. The world was a very dark place, because it seemed that there was nothing in life but punishments. And so I lived in constant dread of what was going to happen next. I didnโ€™t feel safe at home, and I didnโ€™t feel safe at school. Iโ€™m not sure why it never occurred to them that punishments donโ€™t seem to work with this kid. Finally, in the middle of winter, at the age of 12, I hitchhiked 200 miles away to try to escape.

  10. An ADHD dad of an ADHD son here. I'm frightened that the ONLY thing that DOES WORK is punishment… as long as it's immediate and not too severe (not raising too much emotions). Building good habits and good relationships works great, but impossibly slow. A simple "Start on the task or finish playing before I count to 3 or no computer games today.. 1… 2…" works every time. ๐Ÿ™

  11. I really wish this was available to my mom back then. She has very little patience and didnโ€™t give new things a try too long always resorting to physical punishment, so I was put on Ritalin, which made me depressed and overweight, but I learned that she too is ADHD, but wonโ€™t admit it, nor was she treated. But, she has no problem self diagnosing other people.

  12. My 6 year old niece with ADHD also appears to be devoid of empathy. For example pets are merely objects, like her toys, for her amusement We have to watch her around the poor dog and cats for their well being.

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