Why Parenting Is So Hard Today

Link to the full video – https://youtu.be/q-byTf9466Q?t=1700

It's not hard at all.. Just dont give little kids celphones or tablets.

Oh bull shit. The issue with parenting is that when tech came out they handed it to there kids and stopped communicating. I saw it in real time in the cosmetology industry. I saw parents who would sit and talk to there kids and look at magazines and work on spelling and what not with them….. stop after getting a phone that they couldn’t take there faces out of. Or shoved in there kids hand so the kid would be quiet. And honestly the addiction of setting your baby in front of a tv all day was not helpful either…….. so don’t blame the surroundings. Don’t blame new tech, because at 51 I don’t have any issue with it, Blame the humans who CHOOSE not to interact with there kids. They just shove a phone in their hands and tell them to be quiet.

Stop with excuses. There is no excuse.

I’ve been watching this unfold for twenty four years…….

I would argue that we indeed need classes on parenting. In fact, I would go as far as to say that most parents create some sort of dysfunction in the family.

It's even worse when you grow up with narcissistic parents that literally purposely don't teach you anything so you can be reliant on them for their supply then you not only have a crappy childhood and trauma have kids of your own and have to teach them everything that you're parents never bothered to teach you so now not only do you have to do that but also teach yourself what your parents should have taught you years ago technology isn't the problem it's the parents choices it's why I'm angry 99% of the time had my parents actually got off their asses and taught me something sht would be a little easier growing up without having to figure everything out on your own especially sht that SHOULD have been taught to you basically you grow up to be someone else's parent and your own parent. The narcissistic supply is just a bonus headache. It all depends on the people I guess some people are so damn lucky they hit the parent lottery and don't even realize it if you don't have a narcissistic parent you are blessed IDC who you are technology for me actually HELPED 1000% more than my parents ever did

My parents were against TV and screens because they are scientists that read articles about its effects on kids lol. But here I am having to deal with technology in my late teens and twenties.

My nephews like Andrew Tate. Unfortunately, their parents are too conservative to comprehend why that is insanely bad.

Maybe there needs to be mandatory classes on how to parent for everyone wanting to be parents

Why are people giving there children a Tablet at the age of 4!

That stuff is literal brainrot with no restriction, just swipe after swipe

It's nearly impossible to restrict that stuff, there will always be a couple that slip by and some people are HOPING that happens

Dude I didn't even know my dad existed until I was 17 years old. My mum worked her whole life, my step dad was evil to me and my older brother, wtf is parenting, I was better off never being born. Life is only worth living if your a Chad or female. Life sucks as an average guy with mental, emotional, spiritual, sexual, physical, financial problems. Religion, Jesus, working, meditating, traveling, parents, carnt solve my problems I carnt even kill myself, I tried that and that didn't even work, IV resorted to doing nothing because IV tried everything, I have no copes anymore it's over.

Ok, but also: How do you learn how to parent when your own parents were abusive? All I ever knew was that I did NOT want to parent like mine.

I was working as a receptionist and a family came in, and they left their children in the waiting room. My coworker next to me said to the kids “hey, if you need to charge your switch while you wait or anything, there’s an electrical socket behind your chair!” And the kids dad poked his head in and was like “no! No electronics. They play card games.” And he made it very clear that he and his family were “NOT that kind of family”. It’s interesting to see the different reactions to this day and age, tbh.

So you're trying to say technology is the downfall of parenting?

I was born right when computers were common place in homes, but before smart phones were a thing. People still had flip phones and landlines when I was a kid. I played CD games on the computer since I was 3-years-old! But they were kids games, so it was alright. Before I discovered the internet, my parents had me play several educational CD games. They taught me about stranger danger, about being careful about what information you give to people you don't know, etc. Those games were fun and I played them over and over again, until those lessons were ingrained into my brain. When I finally discovered the internet (I think I was about 7 or 8?), I was EXTREMELY careful about everything I clicked on and everything I typed. I mostly stuck to playing games like Gaiaonline, Adventure Quest, Neopets, etc. and only watched the viral videos on YouTube (which in 2006-2008 were pretty tame), so I avoided pretty much everything bad on the internet until I was about 10 when my best friend at the time told me about porn… yikes. My parents almost never supervised my time spent on the computer, and they tried to enforce how long I spent on there, but I REALLY didn't ever want to get off the computer. At least my parents didn't give me a smart phone until I was like 14 lol. Unfiltered and unsupervised access to the internet is a dangerous thing for kids, ESPECIALLY these days. I worry a lot for the 3 year olds I see in public with their momma's phone in hand.

“Learn how to parent like your parents”

ejaculate and evacuate

In schools, bad parenting is really starting to show. Kids will do the most backward stuff, and when you call home, their parents either dont care or agree with them

Good luck natalists 👍

People who say it’s up to the parents are naive. I agree parents are going to have to pay attention and do hard work to set limits and educate. I’m not planning on giving my child free access to the internet until they are older, but I’m still STRESSED about what the internet will do to her. It’s in the culture and unless I can control every parent, I can’t for sure know another kid isn’t going to show my kid something terrible online.

I can’t even sensor things for myself anymore. I can be just casually online and see a friend post a link with no description, click, and BAM!!! Someone’s murdered right before my eyes before I even knew what I was looking at.

Even if I do everything right, it’s very likely another kid will show my kid something messed up. Or worse, DO something messed up towards my kid and post it online.

Another kid at my toddler’s daycare has parents who let him watch stuff that’s over pg-13 and violent. A three year old! I can tell there’s an effect. Unless all parents put in the effort, it’s not enough for only the parents who care and are educated on the harm the internet can have to do the right things.

Also, it’s so much extra work to limit this stuff. I’m blocking shows individually on Netflix. Everything is technically a social media these day. Even google maps technically with its comment section. Not to mention the whole psychology thing about how if you restrict too much, it’ll push your kid right toward whatever you’re limiting. So now I have to find that perfect balance on limits to set on an internet that’s changing faster everyday.

I pretty much have to learn as much as I can about therapy and parenting while keeping up with any new research on the topic to hopefully help minimize the damage. And I am very privileged to even be able to try to do that!