Can I Plant a Garden That My Husband Doesn’t Want?

A: It seems like you want to live in some sort of civilization, which was obviously not your partner’s plan when he lured you to this wilderness of tall weeds and grasses. Are you sure you’re compatible? Why not find a patch of land on some corner of your property where you can meditate on this, while creating the garden you want, out of his sight.B: It’s important not to confuse “misanthropy” with “I don’t feel like going outside.” If you’re willing to tame the land, he should be grateful. It will give him better sightlines to spot the approach of unwanted houseguests, and give him free time to stay in the cabin and work on his manifestos.C: Enough of our natural world has been warped by human intervention. Lawns are water-wasters, and even if you’re laying a vegetable garden, you’d be destroying the habitat of lots of pollinating bugs and small creatures that feed the wider food chain. Why not learn to appreciate the untouched natural world that you’ve already invaded?