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How to raise calm kids like the Japanese (without punishment)





Japanese parents raise some of the calmest, most self-disciplined children in the world — and they do it without yelling, punishing, or bribing. In this video, we break down the three ancient Japanese principles behind this approach, and how you can start using them tonight.
🎌 In this video you’ll discover:
✅ What “Shitsuke” really means — and why it’s nothing like Western discipline
✅ The Mimamoru method: why stepping BACK makes your child stronger
✅ How Amae (emotional closeness) is the hidden foundation of calm kids
✅ The one daily ritual Japanese parents use to build character — not just behavior
✅ Why punishing bad behavior keeps the cycle going (and what to do instead)
If you’ve ever wondered why Japanese children are so well-behaved in public, so emotionally regulated, and so independent from a young age — this video will change the way you think about parenting.
These aren’t cultural secrets. They’re backed by decades of child development research — and any parent can start using them today.
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44 thoughts on “How to raise calm kids like the Japanese (without punishment)”

  2. @SympliKrazi

    so there's probably some factual information here which is relevant and worthwhile. But i will troll a little devils advocate and ask, so is hikikomori a Japanese word?

  12. @lengobrick

    here in the Philippine, we have the most awful and the poorest parenting ever. average parent basically just let their 5 year old child freely roam the street for hours. yet we're the most proud of our culture. it's very disappointing.

  16. @kidgrowth-k3w

    This channel deserves more attention! Small daily interactions—reading, talking, playing, and listening—can make a huge difference in a child's development. Thank you for educating parents in such a positive way. 👏

  20. @JapaneseHabits-x5s

    Thank you for this thoughtful video. It beautifully shows that raising calm kids is not about punishment, but about patience, respect, emotional guidance, and being a calm example for them.

  21. @adajin-ni

    During youchien orientation there were about 20 children in the room with all the parents. One child wasn't following directions and his father slapped him square across the face. He immediately started crying. I was too shocked to say anything. No one else said a word. People are the same everywhere.

  22. @HolaHammy

    What I loved most is that this video isn't about "fixing bad behavior"—it's about raising a child who can regulate themselves. Such a valuable perspective! ❤

  25. @TwighlightAngelRose

    I’m going to be honest here. I’m not Japanese. I’m American. But I feel this video is misleading. Yes we shouldn’t resort to punishment every single time the kid cries or throws a tantrum. Yes we should look for the reason because it most likely is because lack of communication or the kid doesn’t understand. However, in today’s America there is parents that practice “Do nothing” a bit to well. In fact their kids get so bad they can’t even be at school or in public places. There is a grey area that we need to meet between not reacting and reacting. Between when we should use a calm but firm tone and a soft tone.

    As far as I know from the Japanese mothers that I follow on here, they do scold their kids. They do discipline them as well. Like anywhere else in the world, it depends from parent to parent, family to family. Some maybe more lax while others strict. But one thing I do have to say is in their schools students of all ages have jobs and responsibilities they are given. More than just homework. Kinda like in the old days where the classroom teacher would have a pet hamster and it was up to the kids to help care for it or when you took home an egg to “parent” over the weekend. But of course they do a lot more like serve food, clean the classroom etc. Here in America it’s more like you being shipped off to some prison, you go by a schedule, you get shipped back to your house, life your life and repeat. There isn’t to much responsibility learning outside just showing up, paying attention and do homework/project. Unless your in high school and want to take that one course with a robot baby that will cry in the middle of the class and glitches out to where it wouldn’t stop crying 😂

    So my point to this is if we give simple, easy tasks for them to do and make it fun for them, I feel a lot of the problems we have in kids would be decreased.

  29. @p-san

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  30. @RueLaToyaPhillips

    I love this video but it's not all Japanese do this. They do whoop their kids cpu ain't catching them either because that child knows bad behavior ain't getting cuddled. Either let your parents straighten you now or let the inmates straighten when you get there.

  36. @FairyGodmother-f5w

    Though I appreciate how well behaved people are in Japan, their etiquette, politeness. cleanliness, no-stealing mentality, don't-bother-anyone-with-your-crap thinking etc., I am also strongly aware that they pay a very high price for this. In the West, it is vice versa. We encourage self expression, living out your desires and dreams, being unique, being out-going and loud, center of attention,, its' all fine, do what you want, don't care about what others think, blah blah…but this, too, has a very high price. Not setting enough boundaries for kids has reached extreme levels that are now tearing at societies as these kids grow up. You can't go anywhere anymore without having to fight off or against some entitled a-holes who can't keep their sh*t together, who have no sense of solidarity or courtesy , who are selfish, egotistical, narcissistic, look-at-me jerks.
    Ideally, we should take the middle path. Teach kids to express emotions, even to be assertive, but in a healthy, non destructive and non-invasive way. But we must also teach them that sometimes emotions are best kept to oneself, step back, go away, keep you mouth shut, and it's not appropriate to show them to just anyone at anytime. If you don't teach them that, they will have to learn the hard way or it will cost them friendships, relationships and careers.

  37. @55AZ55

    no Tigers mothers among Japanese ? 🫣😉 and the incredible of omega 3 in their food conpared to the near absence in western junk food has also an impact

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