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Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and renowned parenting expert. Dr. Becky discusses her innovative approach to parenting, emphasizing the importance of understanding children’s emotions, managing parental triggers, and fostering a nurturing environment. She shares practical strategies for parents to connect with their children, set healthy boundaries, and break unhealthy cycles. Dr. Becky also addresses common challenges such as screen time, social media, and maintaining work/life balance, offering insights and solutions to empower parents and support their children’s growth.
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0:00 Intro
00:04:09 – Changing the Narrative around Parenting
00:07:47 – The Identity-Behavior Separation
00:11:33 – Understanding Bad Behavior: The Foundation for Effective Change
00:15:24 – The Goal of Childhood: Resilience over Happiness
00:19:18 – Building Resilience in Children
00:23:04 – Teaching Resilience to Children
00:26:35 – Building Resilience in Kids
00:30:08 – Believing and validating emotions in children
00:33:58 – The Power of Belief and Connection
00:37:32 – Time Boxing Worry Time
00:40:57 – The Importance of Engaging with Different Opinions
00:44:48 – The Flaws of Traditional Parenting Strategies
00:48:26 – Questioning the Effectiveness of Timeouts
00:52:05 – A Different Approach to Parenting
00:55:37 – Responding to Coaching Criticisms
00:59:11 – The Terrifying Pilots
01:03:11 – Violating Boundaries
01:06:54 – Understanding the mindset behind punishment
01:10:20 – Understanding Behaviors and Building a Good Identity
01:14:05 – Teaching Resilience through Uncomfortable Scenarios
01:18:11 – Rising Above Heckling and Building Identity
01:22:02 – Leaving Behind Three Truths
01:26:05 – Intergenerational Trauma
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Wow!!!!! I’m only 15 minutes in and this lady is brilliant. Thanks
50:23 May I repost this clip on my Instagram account? I'd love for my audience to see this!
We don't parent for 18 years we parent till we die
please subtitles in portuguese
How much do other factors impacting kids, school, teachers & friends ?
Lewis it’s really overwhelming when you watch other podcast and they all say something different. What’s really the truth of raising a child ??
watching this not as a parent but as someone's kid who probably needs some healing from wrong parenting that i don't know about. im a ball of anxiety and my coping mechanism is avoidance so i think i need this
Sheesh… so many golden nuggets in this video. Thank you 🙏🏻
Sorry but I think u are not very sure about what u discuss and u are not giving any solutions…really waste my one hour listening and u should self reflect and do better next time
Perfect
This’s very insightful useful impactful information. Thank you both for timely conversation.Stay bless ✌️❤️🙏⭐️🫶🏽
She has it backwards… We don’t feel before we think. Thoughts create our emotions, which is why CBT works.
Against all the advice, I have never punished or yelled at my kid. It just didn't make sense to me – instead I created a connection with her. I knew that yelling and punishment would just make a kid feel unheard/angry/defiant, not create real change. She's 13 now and just a great kid.
But what happens when you run through that with your kid or teen that bullied and they turn around and do it again the next day ?? And the next and the next weeks…
She's smart!
Just love your podcasts. Thank you!
For parents of gen alpha kids I have noticed that these kids are more independent, brave, and less ‘controllable’ than any other generation. At first I was thrown by this because it is so different than how I was as a kid but then I started to see the beautiful future that they will be shaping and it all made sense. The world needs them to help fix and corse correct not to follow the path that has led us to where we are. We need to empower our gen alpha to be the leaders that they are and encourage their revolutionary ways! This can look like chaos when they are three and four but in time the fruits of these shift in perspective has helped my children shine and thrive. It wasn’t them that had to change to make it happen but my perspective. Hope this helps someone ❤❤❤
As a mama with 3 kids 6 and under, this episode is so helpful ❤ I knew alot of it, but since no.3 has arrived I absolutely needed these reminders!
I work with so many adults that can't regulate their emotions and they have children that avoid them. Hopefully the younger generation will be better.
12:11 thank you bc everyone say I'm wrong for being passive but I'm not passive I'm tryna teach them smh. But ima stay the course.
Great, meaningful, important, and insightful conversation.
The best thing my parents did for me was tell me no to a lot of things. I'm very resilient in that way and I'm extremely resourceful, too. Also, I'm so grateful for grandparents who were connected and vulnerable. It made all the difference and now hearing Dr Becky talk about this, the MAJOR message they gave was "I believe you" and "I see all of you and love you the same."
Though there are parental instincts, it is enhanced by family or community… even when I was a child, I still knew when to feed my baby niece, knew how to wash and change nappies… because it was passed down. But as a father, I did what my parents didn't, hug more, explain things, rather than follow what I say… but you need to have the on-site and practical experience… theory is great for a Doctor l, who hasn't applied, but unless you actually have experienced or have children, this is all talk
Resilience is not the goal for children. It’s the bare minimum. The real goal is antifragility, which is the ability to develop in response to the challenges of life. Resilience is simply withstanding difficulties, antifragility is about growing from them.
I think people need to read Jean Liedloff's book The Continuum Concept before the woman even gets pregnant. Like she says evolution is the teacher, makes complete sense.
Really, let’s use a real learning disability called dyslexia as an example? Poor choice of an example.
Something is off….
Yes you have been taught you just don’t want to listen to your parents and you somehow think you can be perfect. What an idiot to think that.
Forget it Living is traumatic
It’s not a job you are the carer and protector the rest is just being human
Part time parenting does not provide connection.. think we play too much doll playing and with dogs and think children are the same
It all comes down to this: WE ARE ALL STILL KIDS. Our bodies just grew up.
Here is why @lewishowes is the Best, YOU ASK GOOD QUESTIONS AND REPEAT TO THEM WHAT THEY HAVE SAID IN A MORE BEAUTIFUL WAY
Thank you! Just what I needed to learn.
Just ordered your book.
YES!
I freaking love this. Thank you. I'm 6 mo ths pregnant with my first child. Soaking it all up and hoping to apply these skills and to have grace for myself when I forget. ❤🙏 Thankful for all the parents who are trying to change and shift old programming ✨️
There are so many parenting style trends, but it boils down to the basic things…our job is to love them no matter what, prepare them to one day be happy, confident, self sufficient adults who arnt prey to bad people who want to take advantage of them and in the meantime protect them while they are learning. I feel like most parenting models lack in one area but not her. Her advice works bc it comes from love, common sense & from a child's eyes.
Brilliant….
This sounds very much like Dr Gordon Neufeld’s Attachment Based Developmental Approach run through the Neufeld Institute in Vancouver. If it is based on his work it would be great to hear him credited. Fantastic to hear someone with a platform spreading that it is all about our emotions especially the vulnerable ones!
This talk is Gold for parents. I will be sharing this with many parents i know!!
Why a whole hour of it?
Fantastic interview! She is amazing and I would love to learn more from her about adolescents & teens.
Wow, she’s so helpful! I have learned so much!
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