Fk me that's deep, sometimes I wish I was adopted instead of growing up around my so called mother. I almost was until she came back after a number of years pregnant… again with no man around to support her
Good grief, some fine tuned victimization here! Many of us had parents too stressed or working 2 jobs and didn’t get as much love as we wanted. Great you can see there’s so much more! Yet you condemn your parents who were no doubt raised this same way. Where’s your compassion? The trendy and typical response seems just so heart and soulless. Did these kids have pets? Were they perfect pet parents? Bet they neglected and or yelled at these pets in their care. But the difference is these pets won’t abandon you. Why not grow your heart and help your parent learn and understand?! But it’s another profitable therapy.
I’ve recognized this and I want to save my daughter from myself before it affects her. She’s going to be 2 and I’m turning out like my mom and I hate that for her 😕
I know people say this a lot, but I actually started crying. I just had a bad day at work, and I needed help cleaning up for the night. I texted my mom to see if she could come in and maybe wipe down a few tables for me or something. Let’s just say I got no help, and I got home late.
Somewhere down the line of living, I learned my wants and opinions were irrelevant and bothersome for the next person. I’m 28 year old struggling to advocate for myself . It’s exhausting because I allow things most wouldn’t because I don’t want to inconvenience another. I’m so tired of this but idk how to start the change
Majority of "parents" are like this – Wounded, unhealed, they parent from a place of unhealed wounds of their own they didn't bother to heal from. They make the worst parents. Totally unconscious to their own mind and behaviours.
So i play wirh my daughter but she doesnt "like how anyone" including me, plays with her and i tell her not everyone around her can play exactly how she likes. She doesnt want to do the rhings that i do, and i find no joy in doing things with her because she "doesn't like it." She only likes getting bribed with candy from relatives and would rather go live with them because they give her candy – no they dont even take care of her health and emotional needs. She doesnt like how i read books, constantly interrupts when i go through books with her, she goes at her own pace, then complains about how "she wasnt able to take 10-30 min on one book on all the books" when we only have a set amount of time for certain activities. Its like no matter how many times i tell her she only wants it her way or shed rather be alone. I dont know anymore. Teacher has to constantly tell her too "youre not asking/communicating with the other kids" and i constantly even at home tell her "youve gotta say this then ______" but its like she just doesnt want to and blames the world for everything that "no one loves her." I talk to her, but she doesnt enjoy conversations with me. I ask her how she feels, activties throughout the day, she doesn't like it unless its her way and i constantly tell her some rhings arent possible and for her to learn how to be respectful. We talk about emotions a lot but she gets "detached" because "its boring." So now i feel like I'm emotionally unavailable because i dont know what to do with her anymore. She doesnt even like to play dress up with me, or nails, anything honestly unless its "her way"
My mother still thinks just giving a bed, roof, education, food was all that matters. And she thinks not being emotionally available to me was because of financial issues. Does financial issues make you resent your child and tell them how it would have been easier if i wasn't born or she would have killed me and that my younger brother was so much better than me and that she hated girl child and never wanted one and that parents home is not for girls etc
I think it’s worse that the mom doesn’t even want the lil boy for real. She just wants to taunt the daughter and terrorise her.
Shes just using it as an opportunity to make her daughter feel like shit. There’s a difference between “this man ain’t shit dump him” vs “ I was picked, you were not 😝😝😝”
The thing is they do want emotional and any other kind of support as their kid grows up. They want to receive what they never provided back. If they don’t, they try the guilt trip. It’s so hard growing up having none’s back. Such a lonely journey and so hurtful. And the only way to get over this is to reparent oneself, go low/no contact with them and deal with the CPTSD they caused you.
This and an absent father made my wife a very mean person with zero self reflection. You can’t save them. They can’t take any criticism, and use sympathy to manipulate.
I'm a senior citizen, and everyone I know was raised this way. Parents rarely paid attention to their children's emotional needs. The roof over our heads. That was good enough. We didn't know any difference. Smh.
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Fk me that's deep, sometimes I wish I was adopted instead of growing up around my so called mother. I almost was until she came back after a number of years pregnant… again with no man around to support her
Until there in front of others or interacting with others
ah shit. yep this was my dad and how i was with people
This is me and ummmm most of my family. emotionally neglected and emotionally absent as an adults.
I learned a lot, thank you 😩
😊
My parents taught me exactly what to do to raise my own happy children. I just do the opposite of what they did with me.
This is what these kids Will suffer later in life……crybabies…..
Good grief, some fine tuned victimization here! Many of us had parents too stressed or working 2 jobs and didn’t get as much love as we wanted. Great you can see there’s so much more! Yet you condemn your parents who were no doubt raised this same way. Where’s your compassion? The trendy and typical response seems just so heart and soulless. Did these kids have pets? Were they perfect pet parents? Bet they neglected and or yelled at these pets in their care. But the difference is these pets won’t abandon you. Why not grow your heart and help your parent learn and understand?! But it’s another profitable therapy.
I’ve recognized this and I want to save my daughter from myself before it affects her. She’s going to be 2 and I’m turning out like my mom and I hate that for her 😕
pov me and my mom
Id wonna connect with other people i just won't know how..yeah
I know people say this a lot, but I actually started crying. I just had a bad day at work, and I needed help cleaning up for the night. I texted my mom to see if she could come in and maybe wipe down a few tables for me or something. Let’s just say I got no help, and I got home late.
Somewhere down the line of living, I learned my wants and opinions were irrelevant and bothersome for the next person. I’m 28 year old struggling to advocate for myself . It’s exhausting because I allow things most wouldn’t because I don’t want to inconvenience another. I’m so tired of this but idk how to start the change
Majority of "parents" are like this – Wounded, unhealed, they parent from a place of unhealed wounds of their own they didn't bother to heal from. They make the worst parents. Totally unconscious to their own mind and behaviours.
Omg this is my mom 💯
Narcissists parents are everywhere look at all these comments with the same type of parent as me wow , narcissists are everywhere 😣
My mom
Yup…
My dad!! 😊😊 😔
🤮
🌹🌹🌹
So i play wirh my daughter but she doesnt "like how anyone" including me, plays with her and i tell her not everyone around her can play exactly how she likes. She doesnt want to do the rhings that i do, and i find no joy in doing things with her because she "doesn't like it." She only likes getting bribed with candy from relatives and would rather go live with them because they give her candy – no they dont even take care of her health and emotional needs. She doesnt like how i read books, constantly interrupts when i go through books with her, she goes at her own pace, then complains about how "she wasnt able to take 10-30 min on one book on all the books" when we only have a set amount of time for certain activities. Its like no matter how many times i tell her she only wants it her way or shed rather be alone.
I dont know anymore. Teacher has to constantly tell her too "youre not asking/communicating with the other kids" and i constantly even at home tell her "youve gotta say this then ______" but its like she just doesnt want to and blames the world for everything that "no one loves her." I talk to her, but she doesnt enjoy conversations with me. I ask her how she feels, activties throughout the day, she doesn't like it unless its her way and i constantly tell her some rhings arent possible and for her to learn how to be respectful. We talk about emotions a lot but she gets "detached" because "its boring."
So now i feel like I'm emotionally unavailable because i dont know what to do with her anymore. She doesnt even like to play dress up with me, or nails, anything honestly unless its "her way"
This definitely is me here😢😢
Basically it's another form of Generational Trauma.
My mom does this and wants me to like a 7 year old (better and happier) but she gets mad when I isolate myself. What is this called?
Why did I cry watching this?
Perfectly demonstrated!
My mother still thinks just giving a bed, roof, education, food was all that matters. And she thinks not being emotionally available to me was because of financial issues. Does financial issues make you resent your child and tell them how it would have been easier if i wasn't born or she would have killed me and that my younger brother was so much better than me and that she hated girl child and never wanted one and that parents home is not for girls etc
Devastating 😢
Thank you for taking this on, knowing it, loving both sides, portraying simply
I think it’s worse that the mom doesn’t even want the lil boy for real. She just wants to taunt the daughter and terrorise her.
Shes just using it as an opportunity to make her daughter feel like shit. There’s a difference between “this man ain’t shit dump him” vs “ I was picked, you were not 😝😝😝”
How to communicate with people is to have looks
The thing is they do want emotional and any other kind of support as their kid grows up. They want to receive what they never provided back. If they don’t, they try the guilt trip. It’s so hard growing up having none’s back. Such a lonely journey and so hurtful. And the only way to get over this is to reparent oneself, go low/no contact with them and deal with the CPTSD they caused you.
Were parents supposed to do that??? DAMNNN
Totally my parents
This and an absent father made my wife a very mean person with zero self reflection. You can’t save them. They can’t take any criticism, and use sympathy to manipulate.
WOWZERS!!!!! Y’all put some things in Major perspective on this one!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👌🏽💯
I'm a senior citizen, and everyone I know was raised this way. Parents rarely paid attention to their children's emotional needs. The roof over our heads. That was good enough. We didn't know any difference. Smh.
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