parents on tiktok love to talk about gentle parenting, but do they really know what it is?
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note: child throwing away the spoon, idk if he's actually eleven months or if i got confused with the child later in the video, either way, doesn't change anything
also, none of these kids faces are blurred in the original videos. the blur was added for this video. all of these kids faces are being posted for content.
thank you queer kiwi, this has helped me realize how flawed my parent's parenting style is
MAMA CUSSES! 😆 I don't even have kids and she has helped me figure out exactly the kind of parent that I want to be whenever I do
The woman playing the song and ignoring her daughter broke my heart. I'm in my thirties, and I literally have recurring nightmares about trying to express distress to someone who ignores me even though I keep raising my voice until I'm crying and screaming.
16:30 that mum is literally what it was like for me XD still am like that with my teenagers
A spanking and physical abuse are two different things.
In the video of the gentle parent in the store…the way she made that video is to coach her child to act for the camera, which can be very confusing for the child with the ACTUAL right way to be…
great video!!
The mom that just couldn't turn down her music honestly made me so upset and sad. I can't imagine being the child in that situation because the child is stuck, the car is moving, and the one person in this situation that they're supposed to rely on is basically saying "get gud lol."
Yk instead of telling your child to say sorry when they don't understand. Simply ask if they know what they did wrong and ASK if their sorry. Don't demand or tell, ask. And explain what it means and show/demonstrating it also would help
16:21 I love that person’s videos as someone who’s in their late teens with younger siblings and often babysitting them on weekends
I love mamacusses! I always watch her videos
16:31 YES, MOMMACUSSES MENTIONED. She’s so amazing, makes me actually want to have kids
"I got hit and I turned out fine!!!"
You're trying to justify an adult intentionally laying their hands on a child to cause harm. You did not, in fact, turn out fine.
3 is old enough not to be doing shrill screaming. My nephew is that age and knows better! As a parent you have to teach that it hurts people's ears to scream like that. He understands which tells me that parents hasn't taught their kid that.
4:45 My mother constantly asks if I am scared of her, and she expects a yes. She knows she is using fear to make her children obey her.
Thing is, the only thing that keeps me from "talking back" is my fear of her. My parents set strict rules, but because I'm scared of getting caught doing something wrong, I don't do it, I do it with hypervigilance and going to extreme levels to keep things secret.
I am not supposed to be on my computer at all unless it's for school, yet here I am. I've done this so many times, and every time I got caught, I would take notes and learn how to not get caught the next time, yknow, trial and error.
My mom thinks that she has caught me every time I've been sneaking devices, yet she is so far from the truth. I am on my computer every day, and she hasn't caught me in at LEAST a year.
I have a secret Google account on my school computer that has no restrictions (hence the reason I can watch this video), and my parents have no idea it exists. I hide EVERYTHING on this account.
If I respected my parents, I wouldn't do this, yet I fear them, so I do…
My kid bit me one time.
He was standing at my chair, was overwhelmed and tired.
I was overwhelmed and tired as well, but as I still breastfeed him, I had to eat something.
He bit down hard.
I put him like two feet away, facing me, explained at his eye level that I knew he was tired. That I would be with him in a second, but that he couldn't bite me. If he wanted to come cuddle it would be fine, as long as no biting occurred. He cried a bit. Then he crawled onto my lap and cuddled happily.
He never bit me again.
That whole spoon video was …odd. He was clearly ALREADY having a meltdown (sounded like my son’s “I’m tired” cry) & she probably thought: “perfect time for content!”
She probably put the spoon on the floor herself(after setting up her camera obviously🙄), and if that’s the case, then he’s probably super confused about why HE is being punished. And…did she sit there, stare him down& watch him the whole time? Isn’t the point of “time out” to see if they behave when no one’s watching? The timer is the only positive of her video, but I have no clue how long she set it for. Hopefully not longer than 2/3 minutes, depending on age. 🤷🏻♀️
The book "how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk" is so wonderful
The "gentle hand"-Mom is a joke for sure. Everything looks scripted af.
Of my family who took part in raising me my grandfather was by far the closest to actual gentle parenting and it was way more effective and less tramatic then the violence and neglect my actual parents did. (And they werent even that horrible of a case)
Ive been doing dog training and seeing how effective time out is made me realize how well it actually works. Shame the mom who spotlighted it was not doing it the best way, im sure my grandpa also wasnt the best but he also wasnt doing it for views 😂
Hey, might be me but did you call gentle parenting authoritative parenting in thebeginning? 😅 maybe it's me lol
The woman whose videos you used at the beginning as a reference– her name is Gwena; she now co-hosts two podcasts. Childproof is a parenting podcast and Founded is about the American Revolution. She's also an author. She got her start on titkok and she made lots of this parenting content in 2020-2022 I think.
Moms who post their children on the internet for their content are trafficking their kids and they know it. There is no way a content creator doesn’t know there are creeps on the internet anymore. So if they post their children, at this point I just think the get too much gain from trafficking their children.
I’ve worked professionally with dogs for almost 6 years, & that kind of “polite drill sergeant & natural consequences” is EXACTLY how I work & teach new groomers how to handle difficult dogs. There is a much greater intelligence overlap between dogs & small children than we give either of them credit for 🤣
Dogs are basically children according to my mother
36:26 This looked like- abusive ngl- like she's pushing her kid around hard enough he falls over??? He looks like he's too young to stand well on his own, you can't maneuver kids that young that forcefully you gotta pick em up and place them in the right spot.
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